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Oh boy....WWYD? (kinda long)
As you may or may not know April is Infertility Awareness Month. Some of you may know of the struggles DH and I had in order to have baby dragon. I admit, it was not as long as some people's journey in infertility but going through it for us was difficult. I saw that a friend put something on her FB about it being Infertility Awareness month and I debated on doing the same on mine. Only 1 family member knew of our struggles at the time and that was DH's Aunt b/c she had gone through the same struggle. There were also a number of ladies on this board and the GP Nestie board who knew but I kept everything we were going through from family b/c I felt it was a private matter and honestly, part of me was embarassed that I couldn't get pregnant. After much debate, I C&P'ed my friends FB status and put it in mine...kind like a way to support her, myself and others going through infertility and to "come out" to those who didn't know (family & friends).
Well, my Mom sees the status and make a comment and then decides to also send me the following private message about it:
Is sorrry you could not have shared your infertility problem with me. And that I had to hear about it third hand. Thought we were closer than that but guess not.
Now, maybe my PG hormones are causing me to overreact but her response kind of ticked me off and makes me think that I should feel bad that I hurt her feelings. Yeah, I admit when we were going thorugh all this stuff my mom and I were not on speaking terms do to a huge blowup between her and DH and some choice words she decided to call me via email so yes, in my mind we were not that close and honestly our relationship is not even close to where it once was.
Part of me feels like I need to call her and tell her that my status is about me and to not make it about her and how much she feels hurt and part of me thinks it would be better just to ignore the message she sent and the comment she posted on my status. WWYD in this situation??
Re: Oh boy....WWYD? (kinda long)
You shouldn't feel bad at all. She's acting childish. You said you weren't on speaking terms at the time, so why would it be any of her concern?
Honestly though, if she's anything like my mom, she's LOOKING for your reaction. I've learned that the best way to deal with my wackadoo mom is to simply ignore her antics. Once I stopped reacting to her, she cutback considerably. Granted, she still tries for my reaction at times, but since she isn't getting it, it's not as often & she doesn't press as long.
I think you are totally right on this. I think she is trying to bait me into giving her some sort of response and that it would be best if I just ignore it. I kind feel that if she wanted to know more about what I was going through that she would call me and not just post something on FB.
I think that you are absolutely right about this. The FB thing was a very passive aggressive tactic. I wouldn't feed into it.
How is it that my BABY is going to be 3?
BFP-2/25/11; 8 Wk U/S-3/25/11-No HB, measured 6.5 wks; D&C
I'm coming in late, but I wanted to add because my mom and I have a relationship kinda similar. Thankfully she doesn't have FB, or I'm sure I'd have even more drama from her, but she does stuff like this all the time.
I agree with ignoring it, and would even consider removing her comment from your page. If it was my mom, she'd be upset that I didn't take the bait, but would be just as happy that it stayed up there on my FB page, so that everyone else could see how "selfish" I was to leave her in the dark about something like that. If she chooses to ask why you deleted it, then I'd say "because I felt it was inappropriate for the purpose of my post." Then leave it at that.
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