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bro just won't stfu
I need to defriend my brother from Facebook. He just will not stop. Now he's sent me a message *since I'm the executor* that I get final approval for his idea to fund a graduation award for the seniors at our local high school. He wants to name it the "Crusade for Mae" and make the seniors compete for these funds.
Dude...wth? He's unemployed and he's worried about giving away his money to a senior headed for college? Seriously? Not for nothing, but my family has been made a laughing stock in that town. He wants to wield this "power" over some stranger and get attention? Ugh. Even if he thinks his heart is in the right place, I do not want her life story smeared all over town. It's was neither a dignified life nor a dignified death and he just won't leave it the hell alone.
Re: bro just won't stfu
Yes Defriend him.
It sounds as though he has figured out that his power trip is going to be coming to a close.... and he wants to hang on to some control.... the senior who gets the funds.... He wants to boss he/she around now.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
IIRC, you were thinking of defriending him weeks ago. Time to follow through. He keeps showing you that it's necessary.
I'm sorry your brother's a loon.
I seriously think the school would tell him to donate it to the Dollars for Scholars fund in her name rather than to set up some ridiculous competition for these "funds." With him, it's all about power and control. He was pissed that I was the executor and just won't stop harping on it.
I feel trapped into having relationship with him. He's my brother; he has no one else. I feel bad because he's lonely, but he's also a narcissist. He calls people all day long for attention (conversations consist of only him talking about himself and he shouts into the phone) and makes everything into drama and all about him. He's the one who calls MY mother in law for attention and to gossip. I was sickened to hear from BIL that my MIL was seriously considering inviting him to come live with MIL and FIL. Thank goodness she didn't.
DH and MIL can not understand why I just don't want anything to do with him. He has this need to rehash every little thing about my mother's illness/death/funeral over and over when I just want to forget about it and move on.
Dealing with a family member that is a narcissist is exhausting.... My MIL is one.... and though we have very little contact with her.... the contact I have is very tiring.
Donate the funds in her honor and wash your hands of it.
As far as MIL and FIL letting him move.... you can't control that... but if he did they would certainly see why you feel the way you do about him.
I will say this again.... Vacation from your Brother..... now.... defriend. Done.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.