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UO THURSDAY!
Re: UO THURSDAY!
This might make some people unhappy with me, but...
I don't care for all the husband-griping posts. Yes, my husband does the exact same annoying things as all the below listed crimes. And yes, I have griped here before about my husband doing things that have upset/angered me, but I don't get upset about open cabinet doors, running faucets, or misplaced remote controls. Life's too short for that, at least in my mind.
Now, him ruining a brand-new sweater in the laundry, I will get a bit perturbed. Or him being incredibly insensitive, which he is, at times, will irk me. But not putting a drinking glass in the dishwasher? I can ignore that.
I don't think there should be a prayer before the Thunder games. Or at the very least, they should get occasionally get someone other than a male Protestant preacher to do it.
I may have shared this before. I can't remember. Anyway.
OMG. I typed something similar and deleted.
I get annoyed at all the "men are dumb" posts and commercials and sitcoms, etc. that seem prevelant. Just because your husband can't load a dishwasher or change a diaper, doesn't make all men dumbasses.
ETA: So, I guess it's more of the generalizations that ALL men do this than actually husband bitching that bugs me. I'd be pretty annoyed if someone was going around saying ALL women are emotional basketcases or some other stereotype.
And here is a blog post about what I mean about sitcoms: http://raaque.blogspot.com/2009/01/stupid-men-of-sitcoms.html
And commercials: http://www.askmen.com/top_10/entertainment_300/327c_top_10_list.html
I can't stand all the 'dumb as a box of rocks' stereotypes for men, but I tend to read most of the complaint threads as tongue in cheek joking more than someone actually being pissed about a remote.
That being said, I did live with someone who ACTUALLY made me angry with those things, not because the remote was in the wrong spot, but because he treated me like his maid and it made me feel like he had no respect for my time.
I agree with this, except I substitute "parents" for "men". I'm SO sick of all these commercials and TV shows and such that make parents seem like a bunch of dumbasses and that their kids always know better and rule the roost. Nothing makes me flip the channel faster than the moment I hear some kid's voice on the radio or TV talking as if their parents are clueless about everything. I think that's a bad advertising message... not to mention overdone.
Here's mine: It might be more suited for a FFC but oh well.
I can't believe people are still debating if Obama is a US citizen or not. Really people find something new and move on!
AMEN!!!
I never said my H was dumb but I am NOT his maid nor his mama! He has lived on his own before and had to keep a clean house on his own so I don't see why he thinks I should clean up after him and myself. I am an independent person and have always cleaned up after myself and I expect the same from him. We do not live in the 50's or year of the housewife-I work just as many hours as he does so he can start doing some of the crap I compain about on his own!
I agree with all that and wasn't talking about you, unless you said somewhere "all men are worthless because my husband won't pick up after himself."
For the life of me, I can't figure out what "UO Thursday" is. Please enlighten a n00b?
So now I feel guilty for participating in the "my husband annoys me" thread, but it was totally meant as tongue in cheek. I get annoyed with sitcoms and commercials depicting men as bumbling idiots as well, and would never want to perpetuate that idea. That said, sometimes things my H does annoy me. As do all of our H's, I'm sure. I like that I can vent something like that here, as opposed to getting into an argument with H that wasn't worth it.
I'm assuming this "UO" thing has to do with things that annoy us, so I'm going to list mine: People who don't do their jobs. The general public seems to be full of people who just don't give a sh*t, and it sucks. A few weeks ago, we sold our car. The buyer's credit union gave us SUCH a hard time, because of my name change and proper documentation, etc. After spending 2 hours at the credit union that day, dealing with a b^tchy employee, and thinking everything was solved, I got a call today and had to drive 20 minutes in traffic to sign a document that they messed up. No, they couldn't fax it to me. No, they couldn't email it. Yes, I had to come use up my lunch hour to fix their mistake.
I think I was so sensitive to it today, because I found out on Tuesday that my parents' tax guy, who did my taxes back in 2009, failed to file my 2008 return. Just didn't file it. Who knows how that happens, but imagine my surprise when I got a letter saying I owe $800 from 2008, complete with late fees! I was *not* excited, to say the least. And of course I couldn't just call anyone at the IRS to resolve my issue. I had to go downtown, during work hours, with documentation, to talk to someone. If people would try a little harder, care a little more, the world would be so much less stressful.
Oh, and this! I want to steer clear of any sort of religious debate, but I get so tired of how freaking wholesome and Christian Oklahoma is, as a whole. Not everyone here is a Protestant, Christian, religious person, and that's okay! Not being a church-going Christian does not make one evil or a bad person! It's the most obvious during election season here, but I agree that the prayer before Thunder games is inappropriate and in the same vein.
I'm going with the whole tongue-in-cheek thing (for most of the posts, anyway), but here's my thought....how do you sort of differentiate about what to get annoyed about? Like if some folks are wired to be more in tune with their surroundings, and the disorder bothers them. Oh helll, this isn't clear at all.
What I mean is, I guess maybe different things bother different people to different degrees. Now, if that's not a totally earth-shatteringly original statement that I just made, I don't know what is. *snort*
I do judge when people call their spouses by a mean name, though. I had a friend (not anymore, though!) who referred to her husband as an idiot. It just reflected badly on her...I mean, she married him, after all. It got to where I couldn't stand to be around her anymore.
It stands for "Unpopular Opinion," though as you can see many of the opinions actually end up being pretty popular.
I think posts griping about husbands (or anybody else) are fine occasionally. I see it as a chance to vent about petty issues that oftentimes aren't worth bringing up at home, so I can relieve frustration instead of directing it at DH. Besides, we do the "what do you like best about your DH" posts more often than we do gripe posts, so it balances out.
I guess maybe I'm just the person that doesn't give a damn if the cabinet door is left open, or if the clothes don't make it in the hamper. No one sees how we live, since we hardly have company (we clean when we do, though). None of these things interfere with my ability to live my life.
I do, however, live with a husband who is chronically unable to organize, who goes days with doing nothing and then has cleaning/yardwork/whatever sprees, and who gets distracted from what they are doing very easily. I have learned to live with these traits, and while it bothered me at first, perhaps he has just worn me down to where I'm very lazy about noticing the little things.
I'm not saying we should never say anyone is annoying us, and that our spouses should be made out to smell like roses all the time; I know that's not true. But I have spent plenty of time agonizing over the before mentioned habits and was just a very unhappy person. Sometimes it's good just to let it go.
You said it, lady.
I couldn't agree more.
I hope this isn't too unpopular! We're about to sell our house and H has been busting his butt painting the trim in our entry, hallway, kitchen and master bedroom white.
Amen! ;-) (Except, as the pretty outspoken atheist on this board, I have to admit I kind of enjoy religious debate - well, religious discussion, anyway. I don't so much want to argue with people but I do love to discuss religion/morality with people of differing views.)
Isn't it sad we can't mandate what annoys people and what doesn't?
Take for example, work. Some people may want to draw a circle and bang their head repeatedly everytime one talks about their work but because this is a public message board we just have to ignore it. This is after all a sounding board...
It's grade-grubbing time again....if you earned an "A", I would have recorded an "A" for you in my grade book. No amount of "But I'm a graduating senior!" or "But I worked so hard on this!" makes this (mercy) "D" paper into an "A" paper. Thankfully this doesn't happen very often, but when it does, it puts a crimp in my day.
Now the "B" students who bring in their papers and ask for tips on improving their work to get an "A" next time? THOSE students, I love!
Yes, it is a sounding board for all of us. And obviously my unpopular opinion is, for the most part, unpopular. And that's fine. That's what this thread is for.
I tend to be a pretty outspoken agnostic, so I enjoy a good religious debate as well. It's usually a safe bet that I'm in the minority, so I try to refrain.
I'm with Critti here. I enjoy discussing religion and learning more about various religious practices. I actually took several world religions and a "Feminism and JudeoChristianity" class in college. It's fascinating to me.
I do not enjoy having religion be a mandatory part of my daily life (and, yes, I realize that I don't have to spend that 30 seconds praying, but that's 30 seconds I'll never get back and if there is an almighty, I'm guessing (S)He has bigger things to worry about than sporting events.)
I'm guilty of this. I know I annoy the helll out of my H when I do things like (this is gross) forgetting to grab my hair off the shower wall (I 'wipe' it on there as it falls out so it doesn't clog the drain) or washing all my clothes but none of his. Buuuut, sometimes when you reflect back on the situation, you realize it isn't as bad as it seemed at that moment.
OMG I do the same thing. I totally thought I was a freak for doing it, too.
Luckily, we have our own bathrooms
Master's too small for us to share (he has a surprisingly large amount of stuff!) so I took the hallway bath with the big tub-shower so I can hair it up all I want!
You know, I giggled about this initially, but the more I think about it, the more I think it's actually kind of a good idea. I shed like crazy and definitely tend to clog up shower drains. Hmm.
I am guessing that your post was directed at me? I absolutely agree with you - at the same time, I am working a massive number of hours, and my house is a total wreck due to our bathroom being renovated not to mention we have a new dog (not really our choice but I do love her), and right now we are in and out of town. And it isn't like our bathroom is being "redecorated" - it was completely torn out. I can do nothing to control the amount of dust and crap in our house but it would be nice if the stuff we CAN control - something as simple as closing cabinet drawers and hanging up our clothes - was taken care of. Based on your posts, it also seems that your job often frustrates you - add to that an insane amount of extra stress....maybe you would be be near the edge as well.
I have to agree with stripes on this one. I thought the UO hit a little too close to home considering it was a recent thread. I'm sure it was meant as a harmless comment, but my first thought was "yikes", someone is going to get offended and I don't blame them. There are a lot of posts on here that I think about commenting on, whether it's about someone's 9-5 job, or not wanting a job at all, or other things that I could write UO's about, but I usually avoid it because that's not the appropriate spirit of the board. I guess my point is, everyone's got something to complain about, but maybe we should try to focus it away from the board?