Ugh mothers

smtaylor1

I am not super close with my mom.  I try but she tends to be very over reactive and over sensitive even with the smallest thing.  I am striking out left and right.  Yesterday she calls and she wants to use her wedding dress to make a baptismal gown that can be passed down through my kids.  First problem, the material is very yellowed.  Second problem, Adam and I have talked and we want each of our kids to have their own dress/outfit because if we started a tradition for us we would always know that not all of our children wore that outfit and it bothers us.  We have a white crocheted blanket that was at James' baptism and will be used at all of them.  So I politely declined and explained, she got mad and started crying.  Today she calls and is shopping.  Wants to buy a bunting.  I told her that was fine.  She goes well you'll use it right?  Umm no I don't think so.  We're going to go with the blanket method.  I don't want something between her and the straps.  Again mad/hurt whatever she calls it.  Gah!  I am just trying to do what Adam and I feel is best!

lucylea

I'm sorry she's giving you a hard time.  DH's mom was very much this way at first, but eventually realized that I researched things to death and he and I really thought about each and every decision we made so now she respects our decisions much more.