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Help, please: sick of bs pressure
For a long time, my DH has wanted to c_m in my mouth. I am just not comfortable with it. Anytime I've tried, I gag. We go in cycles. He'll ask me to do it, and I'll tell him I'm not comfortable. He gets upset but then lets it go. It's been this way since we started dating.
Today, he sent me a text message called three pointer with a girl getting sprayed in the face with her mouth wide open. Some of the c_m goes into her mouth. He asked me if I wanted to try it. I said that I would try it, but my mouth would be closed. His answer to me, "I never get to try anything that I want to do?"
I am so sick of the bs pressure. I am not going to do something that I'm not comfortable with, but can you ladies think of any compromise that I am missing?
TIA for your help.
Re: Help, please: sick of bs pressure
I think he's being a jerk for pressuring you for something you don't want to do. You need to let him know that it is upsetting you and making you feel uncomfortable. That is not okay for your relationship.
sweetface83 - We've had this discussion so many times. I am willing to give it a try because I can see myself being more comfortable with a bit shooting in there and just spitting it out. Then he goes for complete cVmming in the mouth and tells me that I have no consideration for what he wants. For that, he is a dOuche. I am willing to compromise, but it's never good enough.
I say swallow, then instantly vomit in his mouth, I am sure he will NEVER ask you to do something you are uncomfortable with again.
It is not right that you are trying to compromise and he is not happy with that. But have you ever tried to swallow? It is not that bad.
Could he be going too far back in your mouth, and that's what's causing you to gag? If I finish DH off orally, then he let's me know when he's about to cvm, and I just don't take him in as far, and i either spit, or swallow.
However if DH were to act like a douche about it like your H is(sorry), I would tell him he needs to figure out how to svck his own *** cause I damn sure wasn't going to.
MrsNYCteach - he is on a lot of medications for various health problems. I have no basis for comparison as he is the only one I have ever been with, but it tastes like very harsh, abrasive cleanser.
What bothers more than anything is that I am trying to compromise and he's just not having it. He keeps saying that I'm his wife and it's just between us - but if you really care about me then you should not pressure me.
Part of me thinks that I should just let him try, put on my big girl panties, and have a blanket close by.
Thank You! It's one of my favorite pictures of her.
Do you think he would back down if you told him, that if he would swallow some, first you'd try again? Also I would try to talk to a Dr. and make sure none of those meds can be passed into his ***. I have no idea if it really could be an issue or not but if some meds can be passed into breast milk, why not there to? It may be something to look into.
that's a really good point.
I will have to ask my doctor if any of meds can be passed through bodily fluids. Part of me feels bad because I want to do that for him, but I can't fight what my body reaction is.
Fox - I like you, you are completely right. I've always been willing to try it out so the willingness is there, but the taste just makes me gag.
cmeinla - How old is she? We have a two year old English mastiff.
going on 13
she's a catahoula cur, lab, chow, and other mutt mix.
ah... i would not be doing that either if it tasted like that. VOM.
this would be kind of a dealbreaker for me. ok- explain to him that it tastes like harsh abrasive cleaner, and you'd rather jam dirty needles in your eyes. have you done this already?
He's a douche who isn't considering what YOU want either. What you want is to not be pressured into something you don't want to do, or made to feel guilty about it. If he had this attitude, I'd stop sucking him off totally until his attitude changes and he wants to act mature and comprimise.
Ever see that episode of Sex And the City where Samantha was seeing the guy whose semen tasted bad?:) Looks like this guy's spunk is funky, too.
(Just trying to make a joke)
I agree with everyone else -- don't do what you are not comfortable with.... and have you spoken to him about the taste issue? I am sure he'd have no problem with the fact that his medication makes his semen taste not so great.
If he's got a problem with that, find another guy. If he keeps pressuring you after that, find another guy.
May I make a suggestion? Try this.
Tell him that you are going to let him *** in your mouth as he has begged you to do. Then tell him that you are going to kiss him with a mouthful of his stuff right after he finishes in your mouth so he can taste it too. He shouldn't expect you to swallow anything he wouldn't!! When he agrees, then do it and show him what he is putting you through!!
Also, I've heard that coffee and red meats can make a guys *** taste bad. There are things he can eat that will help the taste. Kind of counter the taste from all of those meds he's taking!!
Sorry hadn't got this far......if his semen taste bad I wouldn't want to either! This is going to sound ridiculous but try having him drink sweet fruit juices and that may change the taste. Your doing all you can do and he sounds like he's just being extremely picky and critical....