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I feel like I have been tricked (vent)...
I am holding this in and would feel better if I got this out. I hope you don't mind me venting.
I got a call from an acquaintance from my former church. I don't really know her well, but I'd say hello when I saw her at church. She's at least 10 years older than me and accidentally got pregnant at the same time as I did. During our pregnancy, she took upon herself to give me 'advice' about what she learned and was really concerned with me when I didn't really do the things she recommended (such as I didn't put lotion on my belly 3x a day to prevent stretch marks...which I didn't get any anyway; DH and I weren't spending our time visualizing the birth on a daily basis...which apparently that was essential for being connected during the birthing process; I wasn't stretching my 'area' manually to prevent tears...um just no on that one).
Well, she called and wanted our babies to meet, as they haven't yet, and it's been about 7 1/2 months. She asked if I was free Saturday afternoon. Yes, we don't have anything specific, I said. Adrian loves other kids. So, she said she'd come over around 3 so the kids can play for an hour or so. Okay. So then she said there was a christian concert down the road. I thought she was going to invite us. But instead, she said that since I didn't have any plans that I could watch her baby for an hour or so so she and her husband could go on a date. She didn't really give me a chance to answer because her baby needed her. She said she'd see me on Saturday.
Now, don't get me wrong, I wouldn't mind watching her baby at all. But I would have appreciated a direct request rather than being sneaky. Am I over-reacting by thinking I was tricked?
Re: I feel like I have been tricked (vent)...
I would simply call her back and say "I'm sorry but you didn't give me a chance on the phone to tell you that I have to be [insert location here] at 4:30, so I cannot babysit for you today."
She is setting a bad precedent...
This, that's just crappy. It's one thing to be prepared for a playdate, another to have to babysit. If she were a good friend, and if she asked you, then fine. But, she didn't ask you and she is more of an acquaintance.
Wow. that is crappy... I would take D's advice.
F/U-
So, I did tell her before she came that I would see how the playdate was going b/f I agreed to it. The reason I didn't cancel is b/c I was thinking I really want to provide Adrian chances to be with other kids since he doesn't go to daycare. It was going fine, so I said okay, I'd watch her. They were excited, so they snuck out the back door (I'm not a fan of the sneaking out part). Poor girl cried when she realized her parents were gone...which led to adrian crying. It was pretty much a fiasco. Thankfully, we have a toddler swing suspended from the basement ceiling, which finally worked. They did thank me when they returned....and said we'd have to do it again NOPE
Jake blowing out the candle at Katie's coming home party
Katie Belle
Kristen, Chad, Jake, Katie & Sadie the Wonderdog, est. 6/17/06
For the love of all that is good parenting, what is wrong with these people?
Glad that you got her calmed down and don't have to do this again.
lol....my daycare. that's what it felt like. I was thinking that when she was here...if I wanted to run a Saturday night daycare, I would. But I don't.
I completely forgot the worst part. They said they were going to be gone for an hour, and they were gone 2 hours. Didn't even bother to call.
Justin was furious when he called just now to see how it went. It really upset him that they took advantage of me.
You are WAY nicer than I, my dear! I would have a) not watched the kid for them; and b) called them five minutes after their hour was up if I had been nice enough to watch the kid; and c) read them the riot act when they came to pick up their child (well, I would have told them it was rude not to call after dumping their child with me and that the chances of me ever talking to them again would be "slim" and "none").
I guess we know which one of us has the halo and which has the pitchfork! LOL