September 2010 Weddings
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Wedding gift

A couple attended our wedding in September. They were one of the two "if we don't invite them, they are the only one in an entire group that would not be invited" invites we extended. MFD is better friends with the guy than I am with the girl. She is not my cup of tea.

They are getting married in June. Neither of us can attend, but for different reasons: I will be away with my aunt and friends and he has a gig.

I'm inclined to send a gift, but I am not sure if I should send a physical gift, or a check...and if a check, for the same amount that they gave us?

What would you do?

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Re: Wedding gift

  • I know wedding gifts aren't tit for tat and all that, but for people you're not close to it's probably easiest to go with the same amount (if you're sending a check) or something close.  I'm weird about giving people money so I'd probably pick something off the registry and have it sent to them, but I think it's completely acceptable (probably preferred) to mail them a card with a check.
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  • That's sort of my thought. Thanks.

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    Yeah, I'd so something maybe the same or 2/3 -3/4 of the price/value of what they gave you.

    We had a couple like that at our wedding, too, but they got married a year before us.  Their wedding was in BFE and there was no way we were going, but sent them a $100 gift off their registry.  They of course came to ours since it was in a convenient location, ahem, but didn't give us a gift, or even a card.  I was totally bitter.

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  • I'd be bitter about that too. Judge away judgers!
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  • I would be bitter, too.  I'm moving my story to Brew's post.

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  • I would, check out the Bed, Bath and Beyond registry (I'm guessing that they're registered there), pick out a gift about the same amount of what we got, use a 20% off coupon, and have it shipped directly to them.  But that's just me.

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