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Opinions Please
So it is my first mothers day this weekend (obvi) and I want to spend the day with just Brynn and Jeff (selfish maybe but our moms have had mothers days for 29 and 31 years and I'm allowed to be selfish once in a while)
Well before we realized that it was mothers day Jeff booked a free day at the road course (race track) by our house. It is the only day it is available as it is a country club and we aren't members.
He asked me if I wanted him to cancel so we can spend the day doing something. I kinda want him to but he needs to go out and do this and have fun. He needs to. My biggest reason for wanting him to cancel isn't even for me (though part of it is) I'm so worried about the pain he will be in after the fact. Driving 160mph isn't exactly easy on the body. Especially when your taking at least 4 pain pills a day. But then there is the other side of me that says he is losing his mind and just wants a normal life and this is something he loves!
I don't know what to tell him. If I tell him I'm worried about how he will feel after he will tell me exactly what I just said about him needing/wanting something normal. Any opinions or advice?
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Can you do a pre-Mother's day activity with just the three of you on Saturday? That way you get to spend time with just the three of you doing something special, and it is before he is in more pain because of the race track?
I would just let him know your concern, but phrase it so it conveys you know he needs to go out and do normal things but you are worried about his pain levels afterwards. That way you aren't telling him not to do it, but you are also recognizing that he will "pay" for it in pain afterwards.
Has Jeff tried acupuncture(spelling)? My dad has severe arthritis in his knees (he needs total knee replacements) and the acupuncture helped him manage his pain to the point where he is barely limping now.
Could he go for half the day and spend half the day with you? that way maybe less time behind the wheel = less chance of pain issues and you get to spend some time with him?
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Thanks ladies. I think it starts later in the afternoon so I guess we would have the morning together but that stinks because for some reason that is typically when he is in the worst pain for some weird reason. And because Brynn naps the most in the morning.
As for the pain killers and high speeds he checked with his DR and they aren't concerned about it. He functions on them on a daily basis just fine and doesn't seem to have any ill effects.