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Help me know the right thing...

I need some help please.  My grandfather passed away at the end of February.  Him and grandma would've celebrated 58 years of marriage next Wednesday.  I would like to send my grandma a card acknowledging the occasion, but an anniversary card just doesn't seem right for some reason.

Would you just send an "I'm Thinking of You" card?  I was thinking this would be best, and then acknowledge the anniversary in my note inside.  Grandma has Alzheimer's (although she does remember that grandpa is gone), and I want to be sensitive to not upset her.  I don't know if she'll remember that it would've been their anniversary, but I still want to acknowledge the impact their boundless love had on how I treat my husband and our relationship.

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Re: Help me know the right thing...

  • Thinking of you is a great idea...

    Dont go into all the anniversary and relationship details...it may just confuse her.

    Just tell her you are thinking about her and love her.



  • Thinking of you card would be best. Just let her know she was on your mind and you're thankful to have her in your life and maybe share a fond memory you have of her and your grandpa (depending on how far advanced the Alzheimer's is). GL!
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  • Thanks ladies.  Big Smile
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    I'd send a thinking of you card, saying "We love you Grandma and are thinking of you today". Mentioning the anniversary might upset her, and if she realizes she's forgotten it she might get upset too. Hard to know; you're kind to be thinking of her.
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  • I think sending flowers is an excellent idea.... A simple thinking of you is fine.... like pp said I wouldn't go into the details of the anniversary though....

    My grandmother had Alzheimer's too.  I sent her flowers on certain dates.... just because.... she remembered my dad's birthday.... but she didn't remember that he passed away.... so it could be a little difficult so I see where you are coming from.

    Sending Flowers Just Because = Great Idea. 

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  • imagemagsugar13:

    Thinking of you is a great idea...

    Dont go into all the anniversary and relationship details...it may just confuse her.

    Just tell her you are thinking about her and love her.

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  • Thanks ladies for all the great advice!
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  • The "Thinking of You" card and flowers sounds really nice. I'm sure your grandma would appreciate that. I think it's a good idea to err on the side of caution. I know my grandma gets very emotional when things like her anniversary come up (reminds her that her husband is gone), so the gesture of showing her that you are thinking about HER is probably best. I like one poster's idea of putting in a memory that you have with both of your grandparents in it. That is also really sweet. :)
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