Confessions?

larrysdarling

jessica0602:

larrysdarling:

And I can't even get worked up if a Mom asked for/told her H to get her a push present. I mean, shiz, after going through 40 weeks of pregnancy and childbirth, I think every woman should get one.

See, this I happen to disagree with.  I realize exactly how corny this is going to sound, but I think your kid is your present!  You knew what you were signing up for and you don't deserve a bonus gift just for doing what trillions of women have done for thousands of years before you.  It's the circle of life, not a birthday party.

I can understand that. I really can and I don't think it's corny. 

I also can't/don't/won't begrudge someone if they want a present commemorating their efforts and struggles.

Pregnancy is not easy. Childbirth is not easy. The post birth breastfeeding, sore nipples, torn vagina or csection incision are painful, and hormonally induced crying fits are not easy. 

The baby is a gift you and your husband/partner share amongst yourselves and your families. 

A small, thoughtful token saying, "Hey you, good job in making and growing and birthing a person! Thanks for being awesome. This is for YOU."  is, IMO, just a nice thing to do. Doesn't have to be extravagent, either.

Kernel14

larrysdarling:

jessica0602:

larrysdarling:

And I can't even get worked up if a Mom asked for/told her H to get her a push present. I mean, shiz, after going through 40 weeks of pregnancy and childbirth, I think every woman should get one.

See, this I happen to disagree with.  I realize exactly how corny this is going to sound, but I think your kid is your present!  You knew what you were signing up for and you don't deserve a bonus gift just for doing what trillions of women have done for thousands of years before you.  It's the circle of life, not a birthday party.

I can understand that. I really can and I don't think it's corny. 

I also can't/don't/won't begrudge someone if they want a present commemorating their efforts and struggles.

Pregnancy is not easy. Childbirth is not easy. The post birth breastfeeding, sore nipples, torn vagina or csection incision are painful, and hormonally induced crying fits are not easy. 

The baby is a gift you and your husband/partner share amongst yourselves and your families. 

A small, thoughtful token saying, "Hey you, good job in making and growing and birthing a person! Thanks for being awesome. This is for YOU."  is, IMO, just a nice thing to do. Doesn't have to be extravagent, either.

100% agree with LD

lachute

Pretty sure P has no clue what a push present is. I didn't get anything nor did I want anything. I don't wear jewelry (with the exception of my wedding rings) so yeah it would have been pretty pointless because I couldn't imagine what i would have asked for?

That being said he did get me a mother's day present, a family photo session with our wedding photog, which i am super thrilled about.  

rumdrinx

I confess I love all 'hallmark'  holidays. they are  just pure fun.  sure, I say I Love You outside of Valentine's, but Father's Day?  Nothing is going to make me as mushy as ever as this Father's Day. And I have already bawled twice about Mother's Day this weekend.

I didn't get a push present and that is OK...but I wouldn't have turned one down (said the girl who lost one of her little diamond studs in the past 2 weeks since they are the only non-danglers I have and the only 'safe' jewelry to wear around little miss grabby paws.)

mirpete

I confess that I'm extra sentimental because this is my last Mother's Day as a mother of one.  I know my heart blew up when I met Josh, and everyone says it's the exact same thing with the next ones, but it's hard to imagine.  My days are numbered with it being just me and my little guy and that's what is striking me this Mother's Day.  I'll probably want to kick my own butt NEXT Mother's Day for even saying that.