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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Friends, money, vent!
I feel so bad for venting this, but I have to get it out. We have a couple who we are very close friends with. They've been dating for a few years and she really wants to get engaged and start a family. He's been skirting the issue, with $ as his main concern (he is uber in debt).
So what do they do last week -- go to Vegas where he loses $400 (the first night) on blackjack (he never won anything back all weekend). I am all about taking a break and having fun, but all this guy does is spend $ carelessly. He is up to his eyeballs in debt, and I am just so tired of hearing about it and then watching him spend on needless things!
Re: Friends, money, vent!
Well, I know that I always think a man who gets in debt and then stays in debt because he continues to make foolish choices is EXACTLY the right kind of guy to start a family with! NOT.
I'd be frustrated with your friend as well. If you can't talk to her about it, feel free to vent here!
We have friends who are like that too. But they have crazy car payments and go out to eat multiple times a week. At $50 a pop, that's a lot of money each month. It frustrates me that they think we're so lucky, blah blah blah. We're only doing well because we have sacrificed a lot in the last few years. But they don't see that.
There was this one guy I was super in love with before I moved here. Well, I don't care how much we loved each other, it would have never have worked because he was terrible with money and not willing to compromise. I could have never have handled that. So glad I held out b/c DH is one million times better.
I totally agree and next time she complains about him not proposing, I plan to ask her if they've ever talked about his spending habits.
Good plan!
And what about her? What kind of girlfriend encourages this kind of irresponsible behaviour when it directly interferes with her plans to marry this guy? And why would she think that marrying him is a good idea?!?
This is my question! I don't understand women who are hellbent on marrying a guy when he is clearly not making decisions that say "responsible adult".
I think about this all the time. Mostly because I teach at a private school and so I won't get a pension. But I do have a 401K, Roth IRA and am trying to plan for the long-way off retirement.
This is what I want to know! I don't think I could be friends with someone dense enough to stick with a guy like this and actually want to make a lifetime commitment to him!