Confessions/Vents/AWs

MrsKizdoodle

anitalynn:

Thanks ladies.. it's hard to explain. Yes, we are heartbroken over the m/c - but it's not that we don't have anything in our lives to be happy about! It's not that all of the joy has been sucked out of our lives! We are having a tough time, but I am able to somewhat compartmentalize the m/c because I am able to find joy in spending time with Joe and our pets. I am able to find joy in the really awesome homemade alfredo sauce I made. I'm able to find joy in pictures of cute things online. I had a m/c, and I am sad over this, but I am alive and otherwise healthy, and I live a mostly fortunate life. I just wish she didn't try so hard to say the "right thing" when I would have almost rather she said nothing at all.

Sex ed class should teach pregnancy/loss information - like don't tell a pregnant person that they "look sooo big!!" or don't say stupid things to people who m/c.

I think that is all perfectly natural.  My friend said after her m/c she had feelings of guilt when she started feeling happy again.  Like with all things though, we move on and time does heal so it is ok to feel happiness again.  (I hope that doesn't count as something that is insensitive to say!  Sorry if it is!!!)

People DO tend to say stupid stuff in those situations.  My friend kept a journal of the things said that made her most upset and then burned it to try to purge those ugly feelings.  She shared a few with me and I was surprised how unintentionally mean people were.  :-(

 

brifox711

MrsKizdoodle:

anitalynn:

Thanks ladies.. it's hard to explain. Yes, we are heartbroken over the m/c - but it's not that we don't have anything in our lives to be happy about! It's not that all of the joy has been sucked out of our lives! We are having a tough time, but I am able to somewhat compartmentalize the m/c because I am able to find joy in spending time with Joe and our pets. I am able to find joy in the really awesome homemade alfredo sauce I made. I'm able to find joy in pictures of cute things online. I had a m/c, and I am sad over this, but I am alive and otherwise healthy, and I live a mostly fortunate life. I just wish she didn't try so hard to say the "right thing" when I would have almost rather she said nothing at all.

Sex ed class should teach pregnancy/loss information - like don't tell a pregnant person that they "look sooo big!!" or don't say stupid things to people who m/c.

I think that is all perfectly natural.  My friend said after her m/c she had feelings of guilt when she started feeling happy again.  Like with all things though, we move on and time does heal so it is ok to feel happiness again.  (I hope that doesn't count as something that is insensitive to say!  Sorry if it is!!!)

People DO tend to say stupid stuff in those situations.  My friend kept a journal of the things said that made her most upset and then burned it to try to purge those ugly feelings.  She shared a few with me and I was surprised how unintentionally mean people were.  :-(

 

I totally agree with this. Everyone deals with things differently, and the way you are dealing is what works best for you! I think sometimes people want so badly to say the right thing, and then they end up saying too much.  It sucks.

kateandluke

AW:  A bit late to the game, but I'm super excited!  I found out today that I've been rehired at my school!  No super long teacher applications for me this summer

Confession:  My SIL graduated from grad school this week and got a job offer the same day for a teaching position.  I'm jealous that she was able to find a job even before her teaching license goes through, though I had to sub and work my booty off to get my job.  I guess that's what she gets for going into Sp.Ed, and what I get for going into English/ILA...

Vent:  Lucy's in her destructive puppy phase.  We can't leave ANYTHING out, unless we want it destroyed when we turn our backs.