xp mom to be wants evites for her baby shower- wwyd?

OrigamiRobot

My friend is due in the fall and I've offered to throw her a baby shower.  When I asked her for a list of addresses of people she wanted to be included in the shower, she mentioned to me that she would rather forego the paper invite and just do evites. 
In my experience, I always thought you send out paper invitations for an event such as this.  Her shower is going to be pretty casual since it will be at my house, and will be a co-ed bbq type of thing.

So what would you do?  Would you honor her wishes and send out evites, knowing that you'll probably get the side eye from some of the guests?  Or would you get the addresses anyway and send out an eco friendly invite?

TarHeels&Rebels

I think baby showers in general, and a co-ed cookout one in particular, are casual events that don't necessitate formality.  If you're the kind of hostess who'd always send a paper invitation for any event, do it for this.  If you're not, I can't imagine getting a side eye over an evite for a cookout shower - that's just the kind of event evites are for, IMO.  I'm a very formal person and a stationery snob, but I don't object to evites when they match the tone of the event.

I'd reiterate to her that you'd really prefer to send paper and ask her again for addresses.  If she is really particular about evites, look at paperlesspost.com.  Very sophisticated designs that imitate letterpress. 

 

 

jdbmjm

I sure hope that e-vites are okay! That's what my aunt and I plan on doing for SIL's baby shower. I mean, it is a baby shower. 

But I really like those non-evite electronic options- very cute  

MadamePresident

I don't see anything wrong with using e-vites. Plus, its a lot easier to track who is attending and send updates to all guests.

leighanneh

I second Paperless Post. 

Maybe she's just conscious and doesn't want to waste paper?

I personally LOVE paper invitations, but she's the mom to be, and I'd go with what she prefers. 

Temp38995750004016

No way! I'd do paper invites.  IMO, it's going to reflect badly on you (the hostess) if you send out an evite.  I'd never ever heard of evites for any kind of shower until I saw it on the bump's baby shower board.  If it's an event that necessitates gift giving, it needs a paper invite.

OrigamiRobot

Thanks for the opinions, ladies. I'm still on the fence about it, but maybe I'll be able to find a way that I can incorporate both.

lsgarver

I always send paper invites for something like this but your situation is one where I'd keep with the guest-of-honor's wishes.  If she's eco-conscious about paper invites, you'll insult her by sending them.

Ask her why she'd want evites--if it's just because she doesn't want you to go through the trouble, go ahead and send them.  If she thinks it's too stuffy or a waste of paper, go with Paperless Post.

GatorWedsNole

Does the mom-to-be prefer evites b/c she's big on being green or b/c it's easier for her to get you e-mail addresses than mailing addresses?

If you think she knows her crowd, than maybe no one will give you the side eye.

I think Paperless Post is a good compromise. More formal than an Evite, yet still sent via e-mail.  Who knows?  Maybe you'll get compliments about Paperless Post.  They are pretty nice.

FWIW, a co-ed home BBQ shower can lean towards casual, so I wouldn't be terribly worried.  For example, I would avoid Evite if it was a formal ladies luncheon at a fancy hotel/restaurant.

HTH.