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My totally dysfunctional family...(long)
Ok I am fully aware that with all of the posts about my family, it makes them seem totally messed up. I promise you it is not normally this bad.
So my mom. She started going to this kind of trashy bar with her friends because they had live music, good food and dancing which she loves. I started making mention that she was going out a lot (every weekend) and my stpe father was getting annoyed. She was going out every weekend that she didn't have my little brother. She brought my step father once or twice but it's not really his thing and he is always tired from work. So she has been having my gram and aunts go out with her the past few times. Anyways, my step dad called my gram on Sunday practically in tears because my mom has been staying out. She said she slept at my gram's one weekend, which she didn't and then said she stayed at my aunt's another weekend, which she didn't. She came home at like 5 AM this weekend. I just don't know what to think or do. There has been a lot of drama in her neighborhood with some people cheating and she is so p*ssed at them and stopped hanging around with them, so it's hard for me to imagine her doing the same thing, but I just don't know what else it could be. Everything seems fine at her house. I don't get the feeling she is uninterested in her husband. I know she has made some friends at this bar, which is amazing because these people are so far from her type of people. I don't even know what to do. I tried to call and talk to her today but she is on a field trip with my brother and it is eating away at me. Additonally, when her and my step dad got married, they bought a house and now me and DH rent her condo from her. I know it is sill to be worried but we were eventually planning on buying it and have settled in. I am worried that her and my step dad will split and she will want to move back in. There is certainly not enough room for her and all of her stuff and we would have to move out (slefish, I know) But I am just so mad at her. Even if nothing is going on, she is lying. Uh! Thanks for listening!
Re: My totally dysfunctional family...(long)
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I don't think any of us think your "dysfunctional" family is out of the ordinary. We all have dysfunction of some sort in our families.
I think parents are like kids sometimes and go through phases, perhaps this is just a phase for her.
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. It is never easy to see people you love make bad choices and it is especially hard when the people making those choices are your parents and the ones you are supposed to look up to.
I would try to reach out to you mom and try to find out what is behind this change in her. As for the condo/house stuff, I would cross that bridge when it comes to it, but probably start looking for backup places to live (or getting a rental agreement in writing). And this kind of sucks, but at some point you have to let your mom and step-father work it out, because any other way will end badly for you emotionally.
I wish you all the best and hope it all works out for the best and with the least emotional fallout for you. Good luck and keep us posted. *Hugs*