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Mother help...
So my mom. She started going to this kind of trashy bar with her friends because they had live music, good food and dancing which she loves. I started making mention that she was going out a lot (every weekend) and my step father was getting annoyed. She was going out every weekend that she didn't have my little brother. She brought my step father once or twice but it's not really his thing and he is always tired from work. So she has been having my gram and aunts go out with her the past few times. Anyways, my step dad called my gram on Sunday practically in tears because my mom has been staying out. She said she slept at my gram's one weekend, which she didn't and then said she stayed at my aunt's another weekend, which she didn't. She came home at like 5 AM this weekend. I just don't know what to think or do. There has been a lot of drama in her neighborhood with some people cheating and she is so p*ssed at them and stopped hanging around with them, so it's hard for me to imagine her doing the same thing, but I just don't know what else it could be. Everything seems fine at her house. I don't get the feeling she is uninterested in her husband. I know she has made some friends at this bar, which is amazing because these people are so far from her type of people. I don't even know what to do. I tried to call and talk to her today but she is on a field trip with my brother and it is eating away at me. Additonally, when her and my step dad got married, they bought a house and now me and DH rent her condo from her. I know it is selfish to be worried but we were eventually planning on buying it and have settled in. I am worried that her and my step dad will split and she will want to move back in. There is certainly not enough room for her and all of her stuff and we would have to move out. I am just so mad at her right now. Even if nothing is going on, she is lying. Uh!
Re: Mother help...
This is your mother's relationship to manage. There is nothing for you to do. Nothing.
As for the condo, it's hers to reclaim if you don't have a lease. I'm sure there is another one you can buy. But it does seem rather premature to consider her moving in with all of her stuff. She is married with co-ownership on a house. Right now she just sounds like an inappropriate mid-aged party girl. She has a lot ot work out.
This is not your business.
If you're genuinely concerned about your mom's behavior, then talk to her if you want. I don't know how, really, in a way that will change anything - but you can at least say "Hey, mom, things really seem different lately. Is everything o.k.?" to try and kick-up a conversation.
But past that, I agree w/ livinitup. When it comes to their relationship and marriage.... it's not your issue to fix.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10