October 2010 Weddings
Xan921
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Ugh...grrr #*&@&@&@!#&*
I'm in a grumpy/b*tchy mood today, ladies. Help cheer me up before I bust someone's face open or throw my wedding ring in the trash. 
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Re: Ugh...grrr #*&@&@&@!#&*
Don't smash any faces, and your ring is too beautiful to throw away.
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Ruh-roh! What's going on Xan? Want to vent? We're here...
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This is long so be prepared...
Jason has just been an inconsiderate a$$ lately. He's made a group of new friends from his new job...fine, that's great, I'm all about him making new friends because his two 'best' friends aren't very good friends in my opinion. However, apparently Jason thinks new friends means ignoring his wife. Now don't get me wrong, I love alone time, I actually prefer it a lot of the time; however, when my husband goes over to a friends house or has one of these new guys over 5 out of 7 nights a week, I see this as a problem. It was getting on my nerves last week but I just kept letting it go, not wanting to start a fight over it.
Well then on Monday night he invited a friend over without even checking with me to make sure it was ok first. I heard him on the phone while I was in the bathroom making these plans, then when I came out he said "It's cool if 'Bob' comes over, right?" Umm, I already heard you on the phone saying 'ok, cool, see ya in a few minutes' so why even bother asking me at this point? So 'Bob' comes over around 6:30pm, I'm thinking maybe he'll stay until 9-9:30ish considering we all have to be up for work early. So I hang out with them for a bit, then when 8 comes, I go into the bedroom to watch a show, then at 9pm I get in the shower and put my pajamas on, figuring this guy will be gone soon. I'm a pretty chill person and if I know someone well I am totally fine hanging out in my pajamas with them, but I don't really know this guy at all, so I wasn't going to sit there in my pajamas, no make up on, hair wet, etc infront of some random dude. So although I was still annoyed he was there, I was nice and just got into bed. Fast forward to 11pm...the guy is still there, and him and Jason are being so loud laughing at something stupid (I can only assume) on TV. I then do a really grown up thing and send Jason a text from the bedroom telling him that his friend needs to go home, we both wake up before 6am for work, so it's time for bed. Well I get no response, so I lay there and try to fall asleep, but can't bc they are loud. Finally 11:45 comes around, guy is still there. I've had enough at this point and walk out there and say 'Alright guys, time to stop hanging out, I have to be up early and you're keeping me up.' I figure this should be enough...apparently I was wrong because it wasn't until after 12:15 when this guy finally left. I went to bed grumpy, woke up tired and grumpy, blah.
Fast forward to Tuesday (yesterday). I met Jason for dinner when I got home from work and he kept saying how tired he was and asked if I would mind if he went to bed shortly after we got home. Instead of pointing out that maybe if he hadn't been up so late with his dumb friend then he wouldn't be so tired, I just said 'no that's fine, I'm tired myself.' The very second we walked into our apartment after dinner, his phone goes off. It's 'Bob' calling saying him and some other friends are hanging out at his apartment playing beer pong and wanted to know if we wanted to come over. So when it was just going to be the two of us, he was 'sooo tired' and planned to sleep all night, but now that Bob wants to hang out he has this sudden burst of energy? Jason asked me if I wanted to go, but I said I didn't want to bc I was tired and don't drink during the week, so sitting there watching other people play beer pong didn't sound fun to me. He asked if I would mind if he went, and I said "Yes I mind. I didn't get to spend any time with you last night, or last week for that matter, so I'd like to just hang out tonight, the two of us." I didn't make myself clear I guess because he kept asking me if I wanted to go over and over again. At this point I actually got tears in my eyes, and said, "What's so wrong with just hanging out with me? Ever since you met these new friends, it's like you can't stand to just be with me, it's really hurting my feelings." One would think a normal 26 year old husband would get the message at this point and stay home...nope, his response was "Babe, I love you, you know that, that's why I wanted you to come with me...I'll only be gone a couple of hours, tomorrow night is just me and you, I promise." Then he left, this was around 6:30pm...and he returned at midnight. I wasn't 'waiting up' for him, but I still didn't go to bed until almost midnight because I figured I'd hear him come in the door any minute so it kept me up. He slept on the couch, I think knowing I was p*ssed, and then this morning had to nerve to ask me how my night was. Seriously, WTF? We have a thing where every morning we asked each other how we slept the night before. I asked him and he said 'alright, just didn't get enough sleep, I'm really tired." So I'm like 99.9% sure when I get home from work tonight, he's already going to be sound asleep and stay that way for the night. So yet again, I'll be on my own for the evening.
I'm just so incredibly p*ssed off at him. This isn't who he is, this isn't how he acts. It's only been the last couple weeks hanging around with these new friends that he has started acting like an 18 year old bachelor, and I am sick of it. I'm going to flip out tonight, I know it. I don't think I can keep keeping my 'cool' any longer.
Oh, and another thing...last week when I complained about him having his friend over or going over to his friends house, he said "Well why don't you do something with one of your girlfriends?" Ummm that'd be awesome and I'd love to, minus the fact that you don't tell me you are planning to hang out with your friends until 6 or 7 at night. My friends are actually adults, they have lives, it's not like I can call them at 7pm and they've got nothing else going on; I've got to make plans with my friends at least a day in advance most of the time, especially considering they don't all live close. His new friends all live like 1-5 miles away.
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Missing our little turkey.
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Actually no, if anything, I feel like he's been drinking less lately. I mean, he still drinks every day but his beer count has went down from 15-20 a night to 8-10 a night. So that aspect of him is improving. It's certainly not fixed and he's got a long way to go, but he is working on it. It was a few weeks ago that he looked at his bank account and was shocked at how much money he had spent since he last got paid, so I asked him to rattle off his charges to me, just to make sure there wasn't a double charge or something...and I think once he started seeing a pattern like 1) Cable bill 2) Liquor store 3) Liquor store 4) Grocery store 5) Liquor store 6) Liquor store 7) Liquor store... that it kind of made him realize just how much he was spending on it.
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermUgh, I'm sorry! Guys go in phases like that though, his friends are like a new toy and he just wants to play and play and play as much as he can. I know it's sh!tty that he isn't taking you into consideration (even though he may think he is by asking you to go with, etc) but it'll pass.
If he's the only one in this crew that's married, then he 'has' to be a little rebellious towards you.. I mean he's like the kid with strict parents. He'd rather break curfew than be responsible and tell the boys that he has to be home at 10pm or whatever.
I'd try to take some deep breaths, talk to him. Decide on night(s) that CAN be friends nights, that way you can make plans for yourself as well, and you know which nights are just for the two of you. This will leave less room for being let down.
Silly boys.
Xan, I'm so sorry to hear the recent happening, but I am thrilled to hear that it sounds like his drinking has drastically decreased (hopefully it will continue!).
It really sounds like Jason's being an arse and taking you and your relationship for granted. It also seems like it's going to take a lot to get through his knuckle-head mind. If you make plans in advance for something (say dinner and a movie at home), do you think he'd keep them? Maybe you could do something like that and then at the end of the night or maybe in the morning when you ask how you slept say something along the lines of " ya know, I slept really well last night. I think I just had peace of mind that you were in bed with me when I went to sleep. I really enjoyed spending time with just the two of us last night".
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Thanks Kearstin, this really gave me a different poit of view that I hadn't really thought about and certainly needed to hear, especially with him being the only married one. Youre so smart