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What would you do.....shower etiquette....
Kind of a long back story but here is goes.....
Jay's cousin got married last summer. Myself, my SIL, and MIL were all invited and went to her bridal shower. This summer, the bride's (from last summer) brother is getting married. My MIL and SIL both got an invite to the his fiance's shower, I did not. Even if I was invited, I can't go because I have a wedding that day but if I was invited I would have sent a gift even though I can't go and RSVP'd with a reason as to why I can't go. My MIL seems to think it was an oversight that I didn't get an invite, which may be true, but in all honesty, I'm not gonna send a gift if I wasn't invited in the first place and normally I would leave it at that, no invite, no gift, not my fault they forgot me BUT now I will be having a baby shower in the coming months and this girl will be invited. If I truly was not invited, I would still invite her, let her decide what she wants to do but if I was invited and the invite got lost in the mail or whatever, she is going to think that I couldn't even RSVP to her shower, I didn't get her a gift and now I am expecting her to get me a gift, which is not the case. I could care less about the gift, I just don't want to start drama.
So....would you just let it go, don't do anything and still keep her on my shower list or try to figure out if I was trully supposed to get an invite and still send a gift. Basically, I don't want them to think that I got an invite and couldn't even rsvp/or send a gift.
Re: What would you do.....shower etiquette....
Two things could happen. Either you were supposed to be invited and it was an accident, in that case she'll figure it out eventually. I wouldn't worry about that. I still wouldn't send a gift. Unless she calls you or something or someone tells your MIL. In that case, you could send a gift. Or, you really weren't invited (for whatever reason) and in that case, don't worry about. Does any of that make any sense?
If you want to invite her to your baby shower, still invite her.
Ditto Erin. I love to ditto Erin.
But yeah, I personally wouldn't go asking around to see if I was invited, because then, if someone says "oh of course you were" you would have no idea if that was a legit answer, or a guilt answer, ya know?
So, I wouldn't send a gift, and I'd leave it at that UNLESS you got a frantic phone call or email or something to that effect saying "OMG Kris, we screwed up". And who knows, if you don't RSVP someone may call you and say "hey, just double checking, never got an RSVP, are you coming?". Then you'd know for sure.
As for your baby shower, just stick to the plan.
I was going to ditto Erin, but Pam already did.....
And I will edit myself and stop there
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