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Question for SAHMs
Could you walk me through your day? Have you ever felt bored?
I really want to try to stop working within the next year. Since I've been on leave, I usually just clean, cook, and play with Lucy. I don't find it boring at all, I love every minute of it, but I feel like I should be doing more.
(woooo third post for the day!)
Re: Question for SAHMs
Rarely bored, never really have time to be bored. I work PT, but on my days at 'home' this is what my day looks like:
6:00 am- I wake up
6:30 am- baby wakes up
7:00- older DD wakes up
7:30- make breakfast, pack lunches, get my older dd ready for school
8:30- drop dd off at school, come home get the baby dressed and myself dressed for the gym.
9:00-11:00- gym or playdate with the baby if we have something planned.
11:00- feed baby lunch
12-2:00pm- Baby naps, I eat, shower, get dressed, check my emails, make any phone calls I need to make, etc.
2:30- pick up older DD from school, snacks, homework, or her extra cirricular activies.
5:30- dinner
6:30- baths & storytime
7:15- bed time for baby
8:30- bed time for older DD, then I can finally sit down and relax catch up on my DVR.
10:30- bed for me to start all over the next day (unless its a work day M&TH)
DD #1 {04-19-2004}
Secondary IF: Severe MFI (low testosterone, low count, low morph, & very low motility) & Annovulation
After 22 months IUI # 3 Clomid + Follistim = BFP
DD #2 {12-31-2009}
2 more years of failed IF treatments and a failed adoption TTC #3
TTC Journey Over~ Not By Choice
Bored? Not usually, usually I'm craving some down time (while Lucy naps)
depending on the day we have the gym, errands to run, cleaning to do, cooking to do, picking up, playing with Lucy etc
For example MWF
630 L wakes, we nurse then I get up and make us all a smoothie and we eat while DH eats breakfast before work
Get lucy ready, play
845 leave for gym
915-1015 teach at the gym, give lucy a snack on the way home
11-1130 put L down for a nap, depending on the day do whatever cleaning I schedule for the day, eat, do my bible study, bump, have downtime etc
130ish Lucy wakes, make her lunch, play , do the dishes
Later I start cooking dinner, we eat dinner at 6
DH puts her to bed at 7 and I clean the kitchen while he does that
I hope you realize that you are saying that if you are a SAHM that you aren't contributing to society.
How is raising children NOT contributing to society?
Also how do you plan to volunteer for 15-20 hours a week if you are staying home with your child unless you put them in daycare?
ETA: are nannies contributing to society? They do the same jobs as SAHM's (and maybe less) right?
Can you explain how raising a child is contributing to society?
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Seriously?
Moms are caretakers, teachers, cleaners, who instill values and beliefs in their children, teach them right from wrong etc.
What do you define as contributing to society?
If you aren't contributing does that mean you are taking away from society in some way?
It isn't like SAHM's are some leech on society for goodness sakes.
The things you listed above are things parents may do, but still may not offer anything to society. I know plenty of parents who try and instill beliefs and values in their children, and their kids turn out to be the biggest pieces of ***!
My personal definition of contributing to society would be sacrificing myself to help others. Raising a child and teaching them values is not a sacrifice, it is a parental duty!
Also, in response to your last comment, some SAHM's are a leech to society! They CHOOSE not to work so they can stay at home with their children while collecting welfare and food stamps.
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how does working do that? That is a serious non-snarky question.
As far as Some SAHM's collecting welfare and food stamps I think that is wrong. I am not on any kind of assistance and I take offense to say that somehow I don't contribute to society because I don't work full time
In response to your question, in my line of work I work very closely with pet adoption agencies and groom their dogs and cats for free. While it may not impact people, it makes a huge difference in the lives of animals.
I don't feel you have to work full-time to contribute to society. There are plenty of jobs that do absolutely nothing for our community.
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What's an example?
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wow that was a bit of a low blow huh? that was pretty rude.
Yes it was.
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as long as you are aware.
I'm going to respectfully bow out of this thread because I don't see anything positive at all coming from it.
Wow- I'm really not sure what in the past few months I've done to offend you Christina, but apparently something- we've been on boards together now for 3 years, and apparently you assume that every thing I say is loaded with judgment.
In now way shape or form am I saying that SAHM's do not contribute to society. What I stated, and state again, is that DH and I have an agreement that if I stay home, I also will volunteer 15-20 hours per week. That is my statement. I was simply offering a suggestion to Taylor that if she felt she should be doing more (words she used in her post) that was a viable solution.
I currently volunteer 15-20 hours per week, 10 of which is WITH my daughter, and work, and she does not go to daycare now- so I'm fairly certain that this is do-able. But if I did chose to put my daughter in daycare a few hours a week is this a problem? Does this make me a bad mom- because that's what I hear YOU saying in that statement.
And for the record, not that I owe it to you, I do not believe that nannies are not "contributing" to society (in the same way that I do not believe that SAHM's aren't). My daughter will have a nanny for the few months that both DH and I are working- and I am thankful that there are individuals who have devoted their lives to that profession.
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Actually I like Jenn, just because I don't always agree with her doesn't mean I have some beef with her
wow, this turned into a big ball of fun.
taylor, our days usually differ quite a bit. we really have something to do almost everyday. i'm not one of those that can just be at home all day all the time, although we do have our lazy days. we do story time at least once a week at the library, and if i have multiple errands to run for the week i usually space those out for different days so we have stuff going on most days. dominic doesn't do well being stuck at home all the time, he likes to get out of the house like i do
ok, Jenn, if I've done something to offend you I'm sorry. I really don't have any issue with you whatsoever. None. Nada. Zip. Zero.
If we don't agree on something that is fine right? We still can both have opinions.
I thought that what you said sounded like if you are only staying home that somehow you aren't contributing to society. Maybe I read into it too much since I AM a SAHM (though I also work from home). If I read too much into it I'm sorry.
No for the record I don't think that women who put their kids in daycare are bad. At all.
Well...thanks everyone for the input!
Lisa and Christina, do your gyms have day cares? I don't think I'd join a gym (just b/c of the cost), but I like the idea of implementing a daily exercise routine - maybe walking around the fountain park or something.
Shannon, I like your idea of spacing out errands! I would definitely do that. I don't like sitting in the house all day either.
Jenn, and everyone else, I was just trying to gauge if it'd be possible for me to work PT; it sounds like I would be able to based on Jenn and Lisa's schedules. I was thinking like 15-20 hours a week, just to help with bills and savings.
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!
yep they do! Since I work there she gets to go for free and I get my membership for free, it's a double bonus
we also find that the mall is better to go to in the AM because then the play place isn't a zoo (and I'm sometimes overprotective of Lucy)
Purefitness just got bought out by LA fitness. If you can get in at pure fitness then it is cheaper AND you can use LA fitness.
I think it costs $5 or $10 a month for childcare at LA fit
Shannon has taught me the power of library story time and the splash pad!
I think it's totally feasible to work a PT job- especially if Casey's hours are earlier - so you could do like a 4-8 or something some evenings, or 5-9.
We go to Lifetime and they have an AMAZING kids club! Its great because not only do i get to work on my fitness, M gets to play and socialize with other kids her age. Its a win win! and she loves it!
DD #1 {04-19-2004}
Secondary IF: Severe MFI (low testosterone, low count, low morph, & very low motility) & Annovulation
After 22 months IUI # 3 Clomid + Follistim = BFP
DD #2 {12-31-2009}
2 more years of failed IF treatments and a failed adoption TTC #3
TTC Journey Over~ Not By Choice
Wow, thats great about the free daycare AND membership, Christina!
Jenn, I think I'd try to work during the day, so we'd all be home at the same time. My dad will be watching Lucy when I go back to work (in about a week ::s, so I'm sure he wouldn't mind a few hours a week when I worked PT down the road.
Have you thought about where you'd like to volunteer?
Shannon, you have so many good ideas! The mall sounds like a good idea for the summertime, otherwise we'd have to walk at like 5am to avoid heat stroke.
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!