no foreplay?

castroder

hello ladies.  I have been married about a month and my H and I have regular sex( 4-5 times a week) foreplay has pretty much dropped out of it. I feel Like my H is just interested in the end result.  Not all of the middle stuff... I try and get him to slow down.  Since we got married I have been feeling neglected.  How do I bring this up to him without hurting his feelings.

HHvintagebride

Sometimes just initiating foreplay yourself could work.  Start on him, but hold back and tease him a little, then suggest 69 or whatever other foreplay you're thinking of.  Just be honest, that's the main thing. Communication can make all the difference.

chaumet

My husband is like that too sometimes. It is better to just be open or initiate it. Like you start it off or get some games to help out. Take charge a little that's what i do and it always works

Aiobheann

Talk to him. When my h and i were first together he was all about the foreplay, not so much anymore. We had a great sex life until things busy and stressed. I talked to him about it one day. It made all of the difference. Now we're on the same page.

cidness

Same issue here. Best thing I've found is let him know how much you want to give him foreplay (maybe specific things) and you would love for him to give it to you (again, specific). Kind of like a little sexy tease. When I put it to my DH this way, he was definitely excited by the offer.

miller4285

I would talk to him. Because after a while, it would feel like all he cares about is his enjoyment. I am the type that would totally stop having sex until he started meeting my needs, too, again.

Why should it be all about him? I won't have sex unless i am getting something out of it too.

BlackDiamond3201

Definitely talk to him about it. He may not even realize the change or he may not know that you have an issue with it because you failed to say something.