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Is it wrong?
A new confession-ish post.
Our friends who were supposed to have a DW in Jamaica decided they are going on their own to get married, honeymoon, then return and have a reception. Is it wrong if I'm more bummed about not getting to go to Jamaica than not seeing them get married?
We spent 5/7 days with ILs last week. Is it wrong if I feel like I need a break?
Someone at work left and I'm taking over their responsibilities. Is it wrong if I'm really excited for this?
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Re: Is it wrong?
updated 10.03.12
That I bought a leopard print (but really exquisite, designer) dress to wear to someone's rehearsal dinner? It was on too good of a sale to pass up. Also, she wore a satin leopard print mini dress to my wedding. I feel like this justifies it.
That I'm mad we're going to spend our anniversary this year on a plane getting home from said wedding instead of doing something special?
That I don't want to hear my BFF complain about where she's going to live because it is a slum that her lazy boyfriend picked out?
Stand up for something you believe in.
Stand up for something you believe in.
Is it wrong that I bought two Rihanna CD's because my one year old loves her and will be really good in the car so long as Rihanna is playing?
Is it wrong that I'm sitting here eating a huge freaking burrito even though I'm supposed to be watching what I eat?
Not wrong at all. I'm 100% fine with it.
Stand up for something you believe in.
especially because you lost a lot during first tri. dont beat yourself up about it.
EAT!
LOL that's my gauge too. But then, if Guy says that, then I say "okay, whatcha cooking?"
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
{HUGS} Not wrong at all. I can't believe she said that! You don't need toxic and unsupportive people in your life. She's BSC!
Agreed. How you conceived is none of her business and if she's going to punish your child and dampen your celebration of her birth because of antiquated and prejudiced beliefs you're better off without her.
Stand up for something you believe in.
That really stinks. Regardless of whether she agrees with your IVF decisions, she should still celebrate the life of your future child and be happy for you. At the very least she shouldn't broadcast to you why she isn't attending, just to make you feel bad. I would probably be equally upset
I don't think it's fair to call the beliefs antiquated and prejudiced, though. People have different belief systems and reasons for what they believe. They have the right to that and shouldn't be ridiculed for their beliefs.
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They have the right to have their own beliefs if they're expressing them in a way that doesn't demean the choices of others. Just because they would not have made the choice themselves does not mean that they should damper the joy of others or be confrontational about it, and therefore they are being prejudiced in their beliefs. I also believe that the principles of many religions significantly lag the evolution of scientific progress and therefore consider the beliefs antiquated,
Stand up for something you believe in.
I agree that the cousin-in-law should not have behaved as she did. It's not the place or the time to spout out her feelings on the topic. And above all, she should be loving of her family and celebrate life. I disagree that core religious beliefs should always be altered due to scientific discoveries or social changes but I wouldn't ridicule you for believing otherwise.
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I am completely with Mary on this one. Mrs. Mo, that is very unsupportive of the family member and I am sorry you have to deal with that.
Riss, I know you are catholic and the Catholic church does not believe in IVF. I do not know what religion the family member Mrs Mo is referring to is. However,r beliefs are, her actions make her prejudiced. To say to someone I won't go to your shower because I don't agree with something is outrageous and selfish. I am not trying to make this post into a religious debate. On the other hand, I dislike when people use their religion as a way to hide behind their judgmental and selfish behavior.
Thank you Mel, that is exactly how I feel. I've been to many baby showers for teenagers, unwed mothers, etc.- it doesn't matter that I don't agree with the choices that they made to get to that point- but I am going to celebrate the life that is to be with them. Especially family members. Anything other that complete support or silence is inappropriate here- considering what Mrs. Mo has been through she deserves at least that.
Stand up for something you believe in.
I guess I'm a bit confused because I whole-heartedly agreed that the cousin was in the wrong. I do not think she should refuse to attend the shower and I think she behaved horribly. I already said she should be there to support her family. I just felt Mary's comment was unwarranted. She said herself "They have the right to have their own beliefs if they're expressing them in a way that doesn't demean the choices of others." and I felt that she was demeaning in her comment. ::shrugs:: Not a big enough deal to cause a fuss over, so we can just let it be at this point.
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