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Seriously?
DH just came home and told me that his department head mentioned that I had said something possibly disparaging about the hospital. He said I had written it on my FB page but I haven't written anything on my business page, and nothing on my personal page (which is private). Only on here did I talk in any depth about the whole hospital thing. Now granted, I was upset and venting and obviously the responsibility for writing it falls squarely on me...but still...needless to say I deleted what I DID write which makes me sad.
But still. Seriously? Someone reads a message I write here and talks to my husband's coworker?? Wow. Just, wow. I now understand how some others have felt. Needless to say I think I will be pulling back from here. I am also going to be paring down my friends list on FB. Please don't take it personally. There are some of you on there I have only added because you were mutual friends with people I *did* know. It is nothing against you but if I cannot tell who you are, or I have not met you or had an online kind of a relationship with you in terms of getting to know you, I am going to be deleting.
Just really not a cool way to end my weekend.
Re: Seriously?
Oh no, Amy! That's awful.
I have had certain posts of mine brought up by people in the past (had a random acquaintance recount my engagement story to me practically verbatim including my use of the abbreviation "DH" because I'd mentioned the place name and he did a search for articles about that location and my post came up). Since then I've been much more cautious about posting specific details that could be found by a quick search via google.
I write posts all.the.time only to delete them or edit them way down before actually posting.
As for FB, if I don't happen to make the cut, I won't take it personally. I understand!!
Sorry you had to deal with this
It's disgusting, isn't it? It's not a fun club to be a part of
Some people are complete douchecanoes.
I know it's a "public" board. But come on, really? Anywho.. sorry I went off on a ramble, but I'm just tired of this happening again and again. It makes me not want to post anything anymore even though because of this board I've made some awesome friends. Double edged sucky sword.
and some people are just assnoodles.
People Suck...That is unfortunately the same reason I don't post to much on here.
So sorry you have to deal with the BS
Wow. That super sucks. I'm so sorry. This is a good reminder to be a little more careful of what I post, no matter how trusting I may be.
Is this one of the reasons this board is so crazy slow anymore? Would anyone be interested in setting up a private google board?
WTF?????
I used to think this board was full of good people, and there are still many fabulous women on here, but things have not been the same for a while. Part of the reason I'm rarely over here anymore either. Sucks - you ladies have been a resource and shoulder for me for many years, but these kinds of issues, among others, are making it hard for many of us to actually enjoy the Nest.
Thanks a lot, whoever you are - I hope karma comes 'round full swing for you sometime soon.
Sorry Amy - I understand if I don't make the cut on FB, and I hope that whoever it was is actually adult enough to own up to it, but I doubt that will ever happen. ((hugs))
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That is insane. Do people have nothing better to do then to talk about what people write on here? Yes it is a public forum, but people need to have a bigger respect for privacy then they do.
I'm sorry that this all went down Amy.
People suck.
I was totally thinking of you when I saw Amy's post. I don't know why people can't just keep their mouths shut.
That sucks!! So sorry that happened to you. When I write posts, I always have to remind myself that it's not just the smallish group of regulars that I "know" that are going to read it, there are god knows how many other people reading and not posting, post will get over 100 views, but only a handful of responses, who knows who those other 85-90 viewers are! (I realize some are repeat views, but still...)
How sad that people have nothing better to do than to stir up drama like that, in your situation and what happened to Kris&Jay, it just sucks!!
Same thing happened to me on here.
I said something..that was MY opinion... and it got back to a company. People suck.
Agreed. I agree that this SUCKS and I give a gigantic fvck you to the person that was pathetic enough to open their big fat mouth - yes, you ARE pathetic whoever you are.
But think of all the people that have likely gotten married in the last few years, and we've had only a handful of "hi i'm new!" posts. But I am sure that way more "new" people lurk than that. Then there are those that post regularly on another board that used to lurk here, not sure if they still do. But those are just lurkers from the sources we know about, we don't know any of them from Adam. Who knows where others may be coming from.
I admit that I am totally jaded when it comes to things like this on forums, and it just doesn't shock me. I used to be a member of a huge pay forum, and I can think of 3 people who got fired and 2 whose marriages were ruined because lurkers/trolls decided to take information those people posted, and just completely f with their lives. It's a big part of the reason why I'm super cautious when I post.
I'm not trying to freak anyone out, and it could definitely be a "regular" who did this, just saying that I think way more people read this board than we think. :-/
So sorry again, Amy. It is just outrageous that this happened. Again.
Amy that stinks!!
This post is kind of freaking me out a little and making me realize that I really need to be much more careful what I post on here. It's scary to think that an aquiantence of some sort could be lurking and share what I post here somewhere it is not appropriate. It's also amazing how things that appear inocent (Amy, I didn't think you said anything bad about your H's hospital; just asked for prayers on public information) can somehow get mis-read and come back to bit you.
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This was the straw that broke the camels back for me (is that even the saying?). I don't even really "know" Kris (other than her being a wicked awesome SS) but seriously who the hell would think it's OK to talk about other peoples business.
Ok I have to stop right here, because I'm going to get very angry again.
Not cool, whoever you are, NOT COOL.
this is me too. i forget that so many others read this. amy, that sucks big time and i totally understand your reaction.
not cool people, not cool.
UGH! This is exactly why I don't post very often. I know all the regulars are great, it's all the weirdos we don't know about (yeah gross man stuffing your face in your underwear, I'm talking about you!) that makes me feel uneasy. I would feel MUCH more comfortable with a private board.
I'm sorry Amy (and Kris)!
I'm sorry.
I've been in the same situation, more than once, on these boards which is the primary reason I limit my posting now.
Thanks, everyone. I do need to keep those things in mind but am still going to limit myself on here greatly. And Kris you were the first person I thought of!!
I think what really gets me in thinking more about it (and I wish I hadn't deleted) is that what I posted was really not that negative and certainly not disparaging - and it certainly wasn't anything that I wouldn't say directly to anyone's face. But instead someone went and made what I wrote seem negative thereby making casting me in a negative light and thus DH as well. Very much uncalled for, incorrect and plain old not fair.
First of all, that really sucks that you have been put into that situation.
Do you know for sure it was a specific person from this board or do you think that possibly your post came up in a google search performed by the hospital itself?
I know that my company has areas of it that work on communications and find trends in the industry through searching the internet. That is why I would never put where I work in a post. It would come up in a google search of my company name.
That really sucks. I am sorry that someone went out of their way to be a douche for no reason.
Along with a few others this is part of the reason I have cut back on my time on TN, too many lurkers.