WWYD/advice

mickylvr1

My SIL's bachelorette party is next weekend and I am conflicted on whether or not I want to go.  It's 3 hours away and they are going out to a winery and then the bars after ordering pizza.  Basically a typical b-party.  Here's my thing...I don't do the bar scene...never really have, it's just not my thing.  I'm cool with the winery part though because I love trying new wineries.  The other thing that has me holding back is everyone is like 10 years younger than me (besides MIL) and I don't really drink period.

So, what would you do? Suck it up for SIL and go or just tell them you can't make it?

barbbhoww

If it was me and I wasn't that close to her, I wouldn't go.  I'd give her an IOU for a mani/pedi when it gets closer to the wedding instead.  

BUT if you are trying to get on her "good" side and get to know her, I'd go..

sorry, this isn't much help. 

keithandkristi

So is your MIL going?  If she is...I would go and hang with her during the crazy bar stuff.  I totally get that this is outside of your comfort zone...but I am sure your SIL will be really touched by your gesture.  Not sure how close you are or want to be with SIL.  You never know...this might turn out to be a really fun time!   

If you wanted to do part of the festivities...I would say that I have something in the evening but can come to the wine tasting stuff. 

If you really find yourself feeling too uncomfortable...I don't think it would be an awful thing to decline.  You'll be there for all of the other important stuff during her wedding process.  No need to worry about this one event. HECK...I had a bridesmaid not come to my b-party.  Soooo...don't sweat it! 

friendlyturner

I would make a short appearance to the one part I could manage to sit through - the winery (I'm like you - I don't do bar scenes much these days) and then *smooch smooch* gotta go. Perhaps you and the DH can make a day of it - ask him to go with you and wait out the wine tasting and then the two of you do dinner and make a night of it?

RachieK10

I wouldn't go. If you're going to feel uncomfortable and not really be down with the young kiddos partying, then not only will you not have fun but you may put a damper on SIL's fun as well, especially if she knows that it's not really your thing.

My sister came to my bach party and I was very touched that she came (she was kind of in the same position as you - a good deal older than the rest of the party and not a big party person). But, if I'm being totally honest (I would never tell her this!) I probably would have had a better time w/out her there because I was kind of worried about whether she was miserable or not the whole time. I may have preferred a sister day w/ mani/pedis or something like a PP mentioned.

dasmel30

Have you responded before that you were going to make it?  If not, I would bow out and offer an IOU like the other ladies suggested.  I agree with Rach that you may put a damper on festivities since it's really not your thing.

TotallyLoCo

I wouldn't go. A few people I'm close with didn't make it to mine for various reasons and it didn't bother me. Including my own sisters, who just didn't want to come (okay, that did bother me).

And we didn't even go to a bar - just out to dinner and then back to my place to drink wine.

Marick

friendlyturner:

I would make a short appearance to the one part I could manage to sit through - the winery (I'm like you - I don't do bar scenes much these days) and then *smooch smooch* gotta go. Perhaps you and the DH can make a day of it - ask him to go with you and wait out the wine tasting and then the two of you do dinner and make a night of it?

This!