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My Ex-BIL is Evil
I'm spreading around my family venting today. I was in FL this weekend for my sister's birthday and got caught up on what my waste-of-space ex-BIL has been up to. I haven't seen him since before DH and I got married, but he and my sister have two kids so our lives are perpetually tainted by his azzholishness. I feel so bad for my nieces that their dad is such a horrible person.
First off, he is a millionaire, and yet he has been fighting with my sister for three years to avoid paying child support. When my sister separated from him he chose not to see his kids for six months. Now my sister is trying to move the kids to DC for her job and he's fighting her on it to leverage getting his already paultry child support contributions reduced. It's all just for show because he's going to see the kids just as much after she moves as my sister will fly them down every other weekend for their visitation.
What takes the cake though is that he apparently fathered an illegitimate child about a year and a half ago and introduced the baby to my nieces as their brother without even bothering to tell my sister that the kid existed. The mom of the kid even moved to FL from the Midwest so that ex-BIL could be in the kid's life and because she is being deployed in December and wanted ex-BIL to take care of his son while she's gone. Ex-BIL has now decided that he doesn't want anything to do with the kid and refuses to see him. He wants to sign away his parental rights and pay as little money as humanly possible to make the kid go away. Yet the kid will never go away because the idiot has already introduced him to his other kids and my sister is planning to make sure that the girls have a relationship with their brother. That poor kid is going to grow up knowing what a loser her sperm donor is. I wonder how my nieces are going to see their dad as they grow up- knowing that he told my sister that he never wanted daughters and that he has tried everything he can to avoid supporting them.
I always knew he was a loser, even back when my sister was dating him so none of this surprises me. When he found out I was pregnant with DD he told me I should have had an abortion because no man was ever going to want to raise another man's kid. You can imagine how supremely happy I was when he awkwardly wished me congratulations on my marriage the weekend of my bachelorette party (which was the last time I saw his ugly face).
This is probably a flameful confession, but I honestly think the world, including his kids, would be better off if he dropped dead tomorrow.
Re: My Ex-BIL is Evil
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What a jerk. I'm sorry for your neices- they will see what a jerk he is eventually. (DHs father moved away and never told them.. they haven't seen/heard from him in 20+ yrs- neither of them care).
So he wants to sign away his rights to his son, but not the girls? If he signed over his rights, could your sister move?
I've felt the same way about my ex-bil before. He makes my sisters life a living hell sometimes. I must say that in the last few years he has been a really good father to my neice, so I've stopped wishing something bad would happen to him.
They (my sister & he) were stupidly young when she got pregnant and then they got "married." (i use quotations bc it lasted 3mths. the divorce took longer than then the marriage)...
How horrible... sounds like a real waste of space!
Those poor kids! Atleast they have your sis!
He doesn't want to sign away rights to the girls because he thinks of them as actually being his kids since he and my sister were married when they had them and he already had a relationship with the girls. He has no interest in the baby boy because he wanted the mother to terminate the pregnancy and he honestly thinks he's too good to be associated with her. He has a pretty high opinion of himself. My sister wouldn't let him sign away his rights because she wants her girls to be provided for and believes that they are entitled to enjoy some of their father's extreme wealth.
My sister told me this weekend that ex-BIL has stolen $20k in savings bonds that his father (ex-BIL's father, that is) bought for her son and claims that he doesn't know where they are. He abviously can't cash them in himself but he is not above screwing the kids over just to stick it to my sister. She says she predicts that he'll miraculously find the bonds when her son turns 18 and try to act like some generous benefactor when he gives them to him.
Ellie ~ 3.29.12
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