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Should I Say Something?
(For lack of better word, I'm going to call him my BIL, but him and SIL aren't married, but have been together 4 years, have a kid, blah blah blah...just wanted to clarify that)
MIL is divorced from FIL has been for over 10 years. DH is the oldest, only son, and was always her go to person when she needed help fixing something. This time it was the gutters and she needed helping paying for them too. So DH and I gave her money, told her to get the stuff, and DH said he'd come fix them Sunday.
SIL, BIL, and niece are living with MIL currently until they can move into their new place (had to be fixed up after previous people moved out, suppose to be in their new place next month). BIL said last night he would do it today. DH tried to tell him to wait, but he didn't.
Now BIL is strutting (seriously, he looked like a rooster) about how he's the one that put the gutters up and trying to talk MIL into buying him a new set of tools because he did that for her.
DH is upset. He said and I quote "it's not my fault I actually work 6 days a week, 8 hour days, on second shift." I think he doesn't like that BIL is doing stuff for MIL because he was always her go to person.
I think it is nice that BIL is helping out. Though he doesn't need to brag when they're living there rent free and DH and I had to buy the gutters (can you see I'm a bit sore about that), I think it's the least he could without having to make a big deal out of it or say anything.
Should I say something to MIL about DH being upset? He's always been a bit of a Momma's boy and I think that comes with having been the only man around for so long. Just kind of let her know that DH still wants to help. (What I'd really like to do is put BIL in his place...but I know that will end badly)
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
Re: Should I Say Something?
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
I have to agree with the other ladies. I wouldn't say anything to MIL. If BIL says anything else about fixing them, I would just tell him it was the least he could do since he lives off your MIL and next time, he and SIL should be the ones to pay for the supplies too! I almost think your DH needs to learn how to let go a little. He should be happy that other people want to help his mom. However, BIL should not get a darn thing for doing the work.
I did remind DH of that when we talked about it.
It honestly amazes me that BIL can just ask for something. I get along with him...but I don't agree with how he acts.
DH respects his mom and doesn't mind helping her. Stuff like this I don't mind, he's never asked for something stupid and MIL is always thankful and does different things to pay us back.
Can't wait till the moochers move though...
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625