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Biting
Kellen has been biting kids at school (I got the 3rd incident report yesterday). He was bit once (in the back of the head- ouch!), so, I know he knows what it feels like (if he knew that was a bite, as he didn't see it). This has been going on for about 2 months now.
He only bites me, won't bite DH. I have no idea why, although my DH thinks I coddle him a bit too much, and can't talk sternly enough to him when I am saying no.
I have tried time outs, saying 'no!' and reasoning with him (yeah, not working for a 16 month old). They only other thing I read online was to bite him back, which I would never do. What other solutions are out there? Should I just keep up with the time outs and nos? Is this just a teething thing, that will go away?
I spoke to our Ped about it, and he said that he isn't so concerned if he is doing it for a reason (which he is, usually over a toy at daycare, or if I set a boundary at home). He said he worries about the kids who bite without cause (which, he has done once or twice, but not too much, and I think it was because he was getting too carried away playing with me).
Help!
Re: Biting
Same here. Z has bitten my 3 or 4 times (always on my shoulder when I'm holding her) - but darn, does it hurt! Twice it seemed to be when she was tired & teething - just out of the pain she was feeling, and twice it seemed to be because she was frustrated with me (I was talking to the daycare director, and Z was ready to leave, so she let me know it!). She has never bitten DH -- nor anyone else that I'm aware of.
My niece went through this stage. My sister is a SAHM & keeps a friend's little boy once/week. She noticed a couple of marks on him -- and eventually realized it was her own daughter biting him. She was horrified & frustrated. Time outs, stern reprimands, gentle reminders, re-directing...none of it seemed to work. Her DH's great-grandma insisted that the most effective thing to do was to bite back. One day, enough was enough, so my sister "bit back" after an incident. It never happened again.
I know my sister was really opposed to this, too -- and even shocked herself by doing it that day -- but she was at a loss. I *do* think that my niece was a little older when this happened, so maybe they were able to "reason" with her & explain things enough that the lesson worked... IDK. Biting is such a tough issue! Ugh.
Well- I am glad it is just not me!!!
K slowed down on it this weekend, at least with me, but looked like he was going to bite the dog when the dog grabbed his treat out of his hand!!! He is a vampire, I swear!
I will keep the techniques in mind. I am so hoping he quits soon! I hate being known as the mother of the kid who bites everyone!