I don't want to share- help!

Jenn is Silly

So I realize I may sound like a complete shinny baby. But I don't want to share my daughter! Why it stinks: there's a family BBQ this weekend DH's side. It's his cousins throwing it (our age). Normally I'd be all about going (pre-baby) but now I don't really want to. 1) DD is still so young being away from home for a prolonged period of time gets annoying (don't have her swing, her stuff, have to fight for couch space, she doesn't feed as well with the distractions) but also because I'm SO over the guilt trips if everyone else wanting to hold her and me only getting her to change/feed. I work all week and the weekend is "my time" with her. Especially now she's sleeping in her crib for very long stretches only waking up to eat (I'm actually admitting to missing our late night bonding time). Ugh am I nuts for not wanting to share (btw- that doesn't apply to DH, we have a good schedule, it's watching her get passed around from person to person).

NesJas

I dont really know what to say since I dont have kiddos, but I think I would be the same way. A friend of mine didnt go anywhere for a while 3 months before she let everyone see her LO. I understand your reasoning behind it and there is nothing wrong with it. Do what is best for E and you both.

CandiceNT

If it was me, I would go for at least a little while. Consider yourself VERY lucky you do not have a colicky baby...because you would be singing a very different tune if someone wanted to hold you baby for awhile. DS was extremely colicky, and DH and I loved the chance to get out and have a change of scenery and some adult conversations.   I am hoping we paid our dues with DS and DD will be an easier infant. Yes, it's a pain in the butt to pack everything for an infant even for just a few hours, but for me, it was a break for my sanity's sake

Tayrusso

Jenn, I feel that way exactly.

I hate going out on weekends or after work, and I hate doing anything other than playing with Lucy when I'm not working.  Unfortunately, the three of us get dragged around all the time, and we haven't found a reasonable solution yet.

ohyeahdollface

Is she content to sleep in a carrier? Like a moby or an ergo?

The family that I worked for often attended family functions where they were swarmed with people who wanted to hold their little guy. They don't mind it now, but when he was really young it was a different story. He LOVED to be confined to a wrap, and would sleep for hours in one. 

Best reply to a sleeping baby in a wrap, "Opps, shes sleeping! Maybe when she wakes up you can hold her."