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DH Job Issues. Should he Prepare Somehow?
DH works in an emergency youth shelter. They get kids from all different situations: kids who are good kids, but got taken away from their parents because the parents did something wrong, and the not so good kids (shoplifters, sexual perps, etc.).
Well, one of the not so good kids was sent home to his grandmother recently. He had a bruise from somewhere, so when the grandmother asked him where he got it, he spewed out the first name that came to his head: He said my DH pushed him. So, now there's a big internal investigation because this kid named my DH. DH did not do it. He has never been overly rough with any of the kids. The only time he has ever laid a hand on one of the kids is when he's had to restrain one, which he is fully trained and qualified to do.
What really gets me, is they know this kid is a trouble maker. Even my DH's manager said he doesn't believe DH pushed him. And, he knows DH would never hurt one of the kids. Yet, the shelter and the state office are still "investigating" DH.
I just don't understand the rules that someone in this field has to adhere to. There is another guy that DH works with that got written up because a kid was running at him and about to kick him in the groin, so he pushed the kid away to protect himself. How in the world can you get written up for protecting a part of your body that can sustain permanent damage if hit hard enough?! I understand the everyone rights, but when they're about to infringe on your own rights, don't their rights end?
I guess I'm just pissed that they would take the word of a trouble-making child over my DH, who has worked there for almost three years and never had this sort of an issue.
Does he have any sort of recourse if he loses his job over something he didn't even do? Should we start looking into getting a lawyer?
Re: DH Job Issues. Should he Prepare Somehow?
They're not taking the word of this kid over your DH. They're following protocal. That's a big difference.
Having worked in the social services field, I would personally NOT hire a lawyer at this point. I know it's the first time he's gone through something like this, and it's scary. But, I can promise you that if he stays in the field, it won't be the last time he has something like this happen. I also would not worry about him losing his job at this point. Just document everything properly and continue to follow protocals.