Chores and teenagers - not mixing well.

mightyoakes

I am reaching out to anyone who has some sort of concept/schedule/consequences/etc. for getting our 15,13 and 9 year old on track.

We just moved into a beautiful new home and just got married on Monday June 13th! We are a blended family. When hubby and I get home from work we want to scream! It is summertime and these guys are driving us nuts!

Help! 

 

 

Bubs711

Not sure if it will help, but my roommates and I had a chore chart in college.  We divided our place into four categories/area (can't remember exactly what they were, but for example:  bathroom, kitchen, trash, dust/vaccuum).  We rotated categories weekly so that one person was not doing the same chore every week.  If a person did not do their chore for the week, however, that person was responsible for doing double chores the next week - the chore they skipped AND the new chore.  The person that would have had the chore that was skipped had no chores that week.  Again, I realize we were a little older and policing ourselves so I don't know if it will help with your teens, but it's worth a shot.

mah482

When I was younger, my mom got off of work at 2PM. If we didn't do the list of chores she left for us, we didn't get to go to the pool or see our friends. We realized there were consequences for not doing them. You and your new husband just have to make it clear that you expect chores to be done and that there will be consequences for not doing so.

ChileRellanos

Do theya have consequences? Or priveleges? My kids get the Xbox or wii taken away, and no computer priveleges until their chore on the chore chart is done. Also, if they choose not to do it that day they have that chore and the other chore to do. Also, if they do all their chores, they get $30/month (they're 5,10,12). This gives my 12 year old enough money to put more minutes on his phone every month. No chores, no working phone. That's a huuuge motivator for him!

saladandfruitgirl

We have a chore chart.  Even our 6 year olds follow this.  They get paid per chore.  We rotate what everyone does so the same child is not doing the same thing all of the time. 

We don't pay them for cleaning their own rooms, but they are required to keep their rooms clean.

 

dizzykates

Not doing chores was not an option when I was growing up.  Like PP, we weren't allowed to go anywhere or have anyone over until our chores were done.  My mom made us a list every day and we had to call her when it was done.  At that point we could go out.  If we didn't do it, everything stopped in the evening and we had to do them then.  We were not paid for our chores, they were part of membership in our household, it was expected.  My mom cut cable sometime in high school because my brother watched tv instead of doing chores (we didn't have a computer, but I can imagine that would go away as well).

SusanH.

DITTO  on the consequences.

Take away what ever is near and dear to them!