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Life has been crazy lately...
This morning was the first time in a few weeks that I have actually had a chance to check in with what is going on with everybody. It feels like things have been crazy around here lately. Things at work have been very stressful a number of people have been notified that come July 1 they will be either furloughed or demoted. Unfortunately, I didn't come through this processed untouched. As of July 1 I will be part time. Which will basically mean that I'll be doing basically the same job for less money, no benefits, and in less amount of time. After a lot of talk DH and I decided that maybe this isn't the best time to be trying to have a baby so we came to the conclusion that even though we won't actively try to prevent getting pregnant we would stop actively trying to get pregnant for a little while, at least until we see what this part time status means. This whole thing has just crushed us both because it took a long time just to get us to the point where we were ready to try for a baby but we are dealing with it.
Just when we were getting ready to settle back into normal life of just the two of us and our two cats again we were presented with a idea...a dog. We found out through a friend that a family in our neighborhood was moving and that the new place would not allow a big dog, they have a 3 year old yellow lab, and they were looking for a good home for her. We weren't really looking for a dog but we both like yellow labs and were willing to take her. So we contacted the guy and after a couple conversations we were completely ready to take her. The neighbor guy promised to bring her up some evening during the week to meet us and see how she does with the cats. On Wednesday morning he called to bring her up. DH got to meet her and play with her a bit and was really happy and excited when I got home from having a couple drinks with friends from work to celebrate a friend's upcoming wedding next weekend. I was supposed to meet the dog either last night or tonight but something changed at some point. DH got a text yesterday morning stating that the family changed their mind about giving us the dog. Once again we are both crushed and we just don't understand what happened or changed since Wednesday morning to Friday morning. We knew that he was having a hard time giving up the dog but the family is still moving to the house where they can't take the dog so we just don't understand.
Sorry this has ended up being so long but it has just felt that everything is just not going our way this month. We are both firm believers in that everything happens for a reason so we are just waiting to find out what that reason is, but just the same it hasn't stopped us from getting a little down at this point.
Re: Life has been crazy lately...
There will be weeks like this...and the worst part is that it is totally random and for no reason that you can decipher. The only thing you can do is close the door and move on. By the way...that sounds way easier than it is
Boy do I feel your pain!
Month after month, we are unsuccessful in our attempts to have a baby, and then a few months back, we were approved to adopt a beautiful puppy, only to have our landlord change her mind at the last minute. It hurt, and still does. But we soldier on. Things will work out and we will have a baby and a puppy some day, just not today. try to focus on all of the good things in your life and this stage will pass in no time. With having to work less, is there a hobby or something you've always wanted to try? i took up knitting and it is a great distraction.
Either way, know that I understand and that it won't feel this way forever. ((hugs))