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Tradition - a vent
I know some of you probably remember my sticky situation a while ago about going to a shower for a 2nd time bride who has made zero effort to get to know my family. The wedding is this weekend.
My family has a tradition that was started by my Uncle J and Aunt J. They were in England and brought home a sixpence and when one of my cousins got married (10 years ago now!), they presented her with the pence, let her know about the tradition of carrying it in a bride's shoe, and asked her to pass it along for the next bride. It went down the line and I have been hanging onto it for nearly 2 years. The tradition was started by the now deceased parents of the groom getting married this weekend and while I know this pence probably has a ton of sentimental value to him, I am finding myself really unhappy about passing it along to his soon to be wife.
Her shower passed without her making a single effort to talk to people she didn't know despite our better efforts. I left feeling kinda pissed. I went in on a BIG gift with my sisters, my mom, and my 93 year old Grandma. To this day, she has not sent a thank you to my grandma.
I am doing my part, I wrote her a very nice note about the tradition and I am crossing my fingers and praying that she takes it seriously. I guess I just wish more than anything, that I got to pass along this family tradition to someone who gave a darn.
Re: Tradition - a vent
Well - the tradition says it goes to the bride and the bride carries it. I did include some subtle hints about how important it is that she keep it safe and pass it along. I mentioned how it went to Hawaii and back for her soon to be SIL's wedding and how it has gone through 4 brides, making her the 5th. I also mentioned that so much joy and happiness has been represented by such a small thing and that I hope that my cousin is happy knowing a small part of his parents is there to celebrate the day too. We'll see! I'm not invited to the ceremony which I'm fine with so I have to give it to my Mom who IS invited to the ceremony to give to her.