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CA rude?
So i was talking to a woman at work today who lives in Wisconsin. I was telling her about what happened this morning. I found a bag of dog poop outside of my apartment door. The apt we live in is really quiet and everyone keeps to themselves. We have never had any issues before but this made me angry because I ALWAYS clean up after my dog while others don't. Anyways I told her this and she said "Well that's California people for you." So now I am curious if other states view CA as rude...opinions ladies? 
Re: CA rude?
I'm southern, and I know when we moved here it was a bit of a culture shock. Not that Ca people are rude, but there's a different vibe. I'm used to it now and I don't notice it. But I remember getting looks from people like I was from mars when I would thank them for holding open a door or start chatting in line at Target.
Now - leaving dog poo on your porch? That's BEYOND rude. That's tacky and ugly. It's not a "california" thing. It's a "douchebag" thing.
I'm so sorry someone did that to you!
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Oh ya it was right on the doorstep where we had to pick it up.There are not really any kids around so I think it is someone who thought we weren't doing our fair share of picking up after our dog. I have a sneaky suspicion that it was the lady upstairs. I noticed she uses the same colored bags as the one left on the door, and there are only like 4 people who use the same yard for their dogs. So rude!
I never thought of Californians as being particularly rude, but I haven't been to many other places in the states to really compare.
Whoever put that poop in front of your door is crazy rude! If you are going to make that kind of statement you sure as heck better make sure the person is guilty! That would piss me off, too, because a ton of people in our neighborhood don't pick up after their dogs but we do.
I was going to say this exactly! The dog poop is not a reflection of our state, it was totally some jerk who did it on their own.
And I don't think Californians in general are rude. I think Emmie is right that there is just a different vibe and culture here.
My parents live in Texas, but we are not originally from there. When I went to visit them, I thought some of the people there were rude. I thought the girl at the checkout counter was rude and nosey for asking me so many questions and taking so long to ring me up because she was chatting away. I thought she should just mind her business and do her job. And when people visit here from Texas, they think everyone is too wrapped up in themselves and quick to dismiss others.
I also thought that people made rude, or at least insensitive comments about minorities there. I am Mexican American, and it was a shock to come from such a multicultural and diverse area, and then hear some of the assumptions that Texans made about my culture. However, I've noticed much more tolerance and acceptance of other people here in California in general.
But that has just been my experience.
Eh, I lived in Alabama for just about 6 years, and I've lived in California for the first 19 years of my life, and the last 7 and I can honestly say I never really understood the whole "southern hospitality" thing either. I mean, personally I think it's effing rude to sit in a restaurant and smoke a cigarette when you're two booths down from a family with kids, regardless of the restaurant policy, just because you like cigarettes...but that was happening while I was there and had been outlawed in CA for many years.
I also used to laugh about how my x-bf's parents would always say to him, "Oh be careful when you're in CA with S b/c of all those crazy CA drivers!!"...Dude...people don't just, like, cross the border into the state of CA and suddenly *become* different kinds of drivers. And I have been nearly KILLED by unsafe/completely unregulated mack trucks on Alabama Interstates more times in those 6 little years than the combined 24 I've lived (8 of them driving years) in CA.
There are douchey people everywhere. There are polite people everywhere. B/c this irrationally ANNOYS me, I'm also going to say that I tend to think that people who generalize ABOUT people in other places fall into one of those two catergories...and it's not the latter.
Exactly.
Ditto x 2. I lived in CA until I was 26 and have been in NY ever since. There are rude people and awesome people in both. I was really surprised that the stereotypical NY rudeness was a myth. Unless we're talking about Yankee fans of course.
Whoever did that was just an ass, pure and simple.
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I grew up in CA and lived there until I was 27 until moving to Oregon.
I wouldn't consider CA people "rude" perse, however; unfriendly? More so. I've noticed a huge difference in people from moving from CA to OR...people actually take the time to say hi to you here and have conversations. CA people are genreally too impatient and keep to themselves more. They're so friendly here it still amazes me 1 year and a half later!
Now, that being said, I think SoCal people are more unfriendly than NorCal people. I've lived in both places, so I stand by that...flame away if you must.
I've lived in CA all of my life and my mom relocated to WI about 7 years ago so I think some Californians are unfriendly and some are rude but there are very few who are truly nice. And in WI where my mom lives, nobody seems to be in a hurry to get anywhere.
Re: Southern California - I lived in the San Fernando Valley for 3 years and quickly moved back to the Bay Area after finishing college - IMO, too many rude people for my taste as well as too many keeping up with the joneses.
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I will admit that when I travel back to Wisconsin (we moved there from CA when I was 10 and my parents are still there, so I consider myself to be "from" both states), I'm always surprised at how quickly I've forgotten how friendly and kind people are to each other. It's just a different culture- you're kind to others because if they're from your town, then they're almost like extended family... and if they're not from your town, well, you want them to have a good impression of your town and the people in it.
That's not to say that people in CA are particularly rude, but I do think there's a "small town" culture in some other parts of the country that includes being more friendly, generous, and/or considerate. I don't see a lot of that here, not even in the smaller communities I've lived in.
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Haley Beth ~ March 3rd, 2011
i've lived in quite a few places and CA and rude are never mentioned in the same sentence... CA and lazy i've heard more than once.
there's no excuse for someone to leave a bag on dop poop on your doorstep. regardless of where you are that's not rude, it's disrespectful period !