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What are your Pregnancy/TTC/NOT TTC annoyances?
Whether you're pregnant, trying to get pregnant, waiting to get pregnant, or never planning to get pregnant, people say the most annoying crap to you about pregnancy! What is the most annoying thing people harass you about?
William born 7/12/2000
Andrew born 10/30/2011 (9lb 4oz at 37 weeks)
Re: What are your Pregnancy/TTC/NOT TTC annoyances?
William born 7/12/2000
Andrew born 10/30/2011 (9lb 4oz at 37 weeks)
People are so dumb.
My cousin just had a baby and she's always been rail thin. She barely had a bump until she was 25 weeks. It was crazy because you really couldn't tell she was pregnant. She'd get the same stupid comments from people.
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I never thought it would bug me. With Will I hid my pregnancy from my school so no one knew I was pregnant (I finished school at about 6 months pregnant) to make stupid comments. This time it's like no one has anything better to do than keep a daily commentary on the size of my belly. I'm sure within a week they'll be saying that I'm too big to be 19 weeks and must be having twins.
William born 7/12/2000
Andrew born 10/30/2011 (9lb 4oz at 37 weeks)
When people constantly ask myself or A when we are going to have a baby. Our answer is when I am finished with school.
However, if I didn't have the two IF problems then we would start TTC earlier... so it is hurtful to discuss and it is none of their business. B/c of the fact that I will most likely have to have an IUI or IVF, it isn't sensible to TTC while I am a student. But, we aren't sharing all of that with people so we just stick to the when I'm finished w/ med school answer.
MIL is the worst. She knows about the IF and yet she still gives us a hard time about giving her her first grandchild. She will say comments like "if you weren't in school for so long after college you could start a family" or when she sends me emails for cute baby clothes or the other day she sent me a livingsocial deal about a mommy & me dance class... Why would I need a mommy & me dance class when I don't have a kid nor am I pregnant? Thanks a lot MIL.
We're waiting a looooonnnnggggg time, though we have been strongly considering moving up the timeline (WTH, I KNOW GUYS I KNOW!) to 4ish years from now... We aren't even planning on telling our parents we are moving up our timeline, mostly because we won't be actively trying, we'll just stop preventing and see what happens, and we don't want to get their hopes up. They have been SO SUPPORTIVE of us wanting to wait, unlike other assorted people in our lives.
Most annoying comments:
"Don't wait forever."
"You know, after 30 your risks go up."
"Look at how cute that baby is Nicole, why don't you want one?"
"Your pets won't be your babies once you actually have babies." EXCUSE ME?!?! MY PETS WILL ALWAYS BE MY BABIES! I still often cry about and think about my Diego and will always consider him my first baby.
"So, when are you going to have baby already? You've been married xxx years now!"
And the fact that every time I post on a picture of Krissy's Maggie, my facebook-etiquette challenge grandmother comments as well with hints about grandbabies. You should also see the picture of me making a hilarious face while holding Maria's Ella. Other than my own comment 5 of the 6 are from my family members, family friend and boss... and my ex-step-mom "liked" everyone's comments *facepalm* Seriously, these people just don't get it.
LOL I was totally going to bring this up. Although totally rude, you have to admit, it is pretty funny!
When I was pregnant I had A LOT lol.... most of all it was people who were always telling me how 'huge' I was and that I was 'definitely' having twins. I loved my belly, and in person it wasn't (or at least didn't feel like) it was as big as it was in pictures. Also, people telling me that there was 'no way I was having anything less than a 9lb baby' and that is was 'definitely a boy'
It's even more irritating since they were right.
Now I don't have too many. I'm not crazy about people who dwell on Wyatt being bald like its a bad thing. I love my little blonde baldie, hair or no hair
Example from my grandma... this is a comment on a photo album of mine that had pictures of my goddaughter in it. After my ex-step-mom prompted by asking when we would have a little Coley or David... sigh
Dont wait to long, Iam only going to be here till Iam 90. Kids are more fun then Dogs. Dont get me wrong I love dogs. Great Gma Mary. Has a ring to it.
WOW... no pressure to be found there...
I am a total planner... Mags came at the perfect time so I missed an entire busy season...AND she came on her due date. She makes me so proud lol.
Why would she want you to experience this without him? I hope everything goes well for you in July and that you have lots of luck :-)
I'm annoyed with the 'yeah, right' and 'good luck' or 'why?' remarks when I say I'm planning to go without an epidural... why do they care if I'm in pain?
I am currently mostly annoyed with unwanted pregnancy/parenting advice or how everyone has to tell me about their pregnancies. Or the same guy at work who asks me EVERY time he sees me "how are you feeling" to which I ALWAYS answer "fine" and carry on.
People seriously have no tack when it comes to other people's lives. Why do they feel they can ask intimate questions about pregnancy, when you are going to have kids, etc. None of your business!
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When I mention that I'm not TTC yet because I don't have a regular job or just by simply saying babies are expensive, people go "but you're a lawyer" like that means that I have money coming out my a$$. I don't have maternity insurance and I'm not paying the exorbitant amount I'd have to pay to get it added to my private insurance or to be added to DH's insurance. Especially since there is no room in the budget for that!! It's a bad economy people and many lawyers are out of work! One person even went so far as to say that my kids will not have to go without necessities because we have good parents. Umm, what?! I didn't go to college and law school and get married to have my parents support my kids!!
Oh and DH really wants a baby and I have to be the practical one and say no (which sucks in and of itself). I ask how he thinks we're going to feasibly have a baby and he answers with "other people do it" or "it'll work out." I'm a planner, so I pretty much could never go by that without having a heart attack lol. Also, his constant 5 year old pouts about me waiting too long and how he is going to be "so old" when we "finally" have a baby is really super annoying (of course slightly cute). He thinks he won't be able to see his grandchildren because of this - not jumping the gun at all, huh. DH is 28 next week and I'm 26, we still won't be old in another 3 years.
My Mom, who is 51 yes 51, has also mentioned how she is going to be such an old grandparent. Also, how she will be older than my older grandparents. My older grandparents who are still alive by the way which means they have seen all their grandchildren reach maturity. I think this is more directed at my older sister, but its still funny.
My personal favorite is this one, "You know. Enjoy whatever I'm talking about us doing (i.e. vacations, date nights, concerts, going out, etc) now because once you get pregnant that's ALL changing." or "You two are still in the newlywed phase, once you have a family, you won't be able to stand each other."
Pretty presumptuous don't you think? My parents live 3 blocks away. One of my best friends lives not even 3 minutes from me, and J's family is right on the way to Indianapolis. We have plenty of people to watch baby B if we want them too. We can make the choice of whether to make a point to go out on dates just us two or not. And just because your marriage is like that doesn't mean ours is or will be. Little do they know, we're working on this baby making thing and our marriage is actually stronger than ever. I don't think that after the baby gets here that we'll start fighting and hating each other so frankly, they can all suck it.
I was wondering how you were feeling? We have our follow-up appt this morning... so LO might be here sooner rather than later. Eek.
I get the 'dropped' comments all the time. But they seem like every other person is the opposite. I've carried low this entire pregnancy... so who knows
Good Luck to all of our TTC ladies!!
Those are such false statements. Babies can go on vacations too and we aren't bad parents for leaving them behind if we need alone time. If having a family make a couple not stand each other, then they shouldn't be married to begin with! People annoy me!
I think it's adorable!
Mine is when I was pregnant everyone kept asying "uncomfortable yet?" and when I would say "no" they would reply "just you wait!!!" Um, yeah, I never got uncomfortable, thanks though, and I slept 8-12 hours every night. I hate that people put their experiences on you, which is why I shopped with an ipod on.
Surprisingly, I have not gotten any "so close together!" comments on this pregnancy. Yet.
I do get annoyed at the "he's so huge" comments with Anders. Yep, I get it, my 1 year old is in 2T clothing, and he's very long, which really shouldn't shock anyone since S and I are pretty tall. I always just say "Yep, it's great!" and walk away.
I'd prefer no one to know when we start tying.
Yet with my sisters wedding this weekend, our families seem to have copped on that this is what I've been waiting for (I did not want to be pregnant for her wedding...)... And now my sister and sister in law are all up in my grill about pre-natals.
For starters - I went to the OB in May. She told me to just take a multi until I got preggo - as long as I was getting the right amount of folic acid.... So relax: I'm on the situation. Second of all - I appreciate the concern (they have both declared I need to be on pre-natals for a few months before we start tying, b/c of a recent study on causes of autism and I have an autistic nephew.).... but my sil was literally throwing the name of her perscription pre-natal at me the other day. Hello - I talked to my dr and she said I didn't need one.... so you giving me the name of a perscription is not going to help anything.
Wow - it felt good to get all of that out! HAHAH!
I also hate the word Preggers.....
I get the whole "if you think you're tired now...." It annoys the crap out of me. I get it, babies need alot of attention. I'm sure it will be totally different when the baby gets here and we're ready for that.
People ask me how I'm feeling and if I've gained any weight yet. My answer is "I'm feeling fine if this gagging would just go away and no I've actually lost close to 10 lbs" they quicky come back with "oh, don't worry-you will gain it all back and then more". Yes, I understand this too. I get that people gain weight while pregnant! If you don't want to really know the answer to my question then don't ask!!
Also my fear for needles did not start when I got pregnant. It's been here my whole life. I understand there will be alot of blood drawing while pregnant. You would think I would be used to it by now, going in for daily blood draws but alas I'm not. Please don't tell me "you better get used to it" because I seriously doubt I will ever get used to needles.
Haha. this is what my BIL calls me (he is the only one and I take it as a term of endearment from him). I can't stand preggo - too much like the spaghetti sauce, MIL says it, I made Ricky tell her to stop because I'm not a jar of sauce.
Not gonna lie... this made me LOL
I'd have to say it was my vent a few weeks back about the parent at school who approached me saying that the 2nd grade parents are afraid to get me because they're scared I'm going to get pregnant.
I'm honestly putting some thought to being a pregnant woman for Halloween. Perhaps my entire grade level will join me since we usually do group costumes.
My family all know that we're in the NOT ttc for a while. I absolutely will NOT tell them when we switch camps either.
There's really only one person that bugs me right now... my younger brother loves to tell me that I'm eating for two or tell me when I where empire waisted dresses that I'm pregnant. Or we'll be having a random conversation and he'll quite loudly announce to the entire room that "What? Your pregnant? Brittany's pregnant!"
He just does it because he knows it drives me crazy, but I'm determined to make him be the vary last to know when I do get pregnant.
Oh, and I second the preggers and preggo thing. The only one who can get away with that and that I would say that too is my Bff.