House warming party

matt&brit

My fiance and I just bought a house, we are not living together until we are married and we have until next October until the wedding.

 When do you think we should hold the house warming party? After he moves in? or After the wedding??? I would rather do it after the wedding because we will have all our wonderful gifts put up, but is a little over a year to long to wait for a house warming party???

 

Thanks in advice!

kjvogelsang

I am going to a housewarming party this weekend where the owner has been there for almost a year. He wanted to wait to get stuff put up too. I think that is totally fine if you guys wait until after the wedding. 

TarHeels&Rebels

I always say when this question gets asked that housewarmings should be done within 90 days of moving in.  After that, the house is warm and just have a plain party to show people around.  I think it'd be silly for you guys to wait 15 months to have a housewarming.  Have it now while the house is still new to you.

Magdala9

Throw two parties.  A house warming now to show off the house (and show off all the before pictures) and a fun party after the wedding to show off all your improvements.

lsgarver

I think you're trying to fit a strange situation into a traditional mold.

There's no point in having a housewarming while you're not living there because it you're not really fulfilling the purpose.  There's also no point in having a housewarming after it has already been lived in and visited for over a year.

Is there really a NEED to have a housewarming?  I think you skip it and just have a party whenever you want to.

TarHeels&Rebels

lsgarver:

I think you're trying to fit a strange situation into a traditional mold.

There's no point in having a housewarming while you're not living there because it you're not really fulfilling the purpose.  There's also no point in having a housewarming after it has already been lived in and visited for over a year.

Is there really a NEED to have a housewarming?  I think you skip it and just have a party whenever you want to.

I thought of all this and typed something similar out, but erased it.  I figured that the FI is living there and maybe he wants/deserves/whatever a housewarming and that it's for him, not them. <shrug>  I agree that if they're celebrating their house, now that's strange since they aren't living there and it'd be like throwing the house a party.

lsgarver

TarHeels&Rebels:

lsgarver:

I think you're trying to fit a strange situation into a traditional mold.

There's no point in having a housewarming while you're not living there because it you're not really fulfilling the purpose.  There's also no point in having a housewarming after it has already been lived in and visited for over a year.

Is there really a NEED to have a housewarming?  I think you skip it and just have a party whenever you want to.

I thought of all this and typed something similar out, but erased it.  I figured that the FI is living there and maybe he wants/deserves/whatever a housewarming and that it's for him, not them. <shrug>  I agree that if they're celebrating their house, now that's strange since they aren't living there and it'd be like throwing the house a party.

I thought about that, too, but I thought it would be weird to have the FI throw a housewarming party for the house he's in without her.  Then it's like his party for the house they bought.  But if they have one for both of them, it's a housewarming party for a house she's not in.  It's just a strange situation.

 IMO, no one "deserves" a housewarming party.  It's one of those things people do for a purpose--to welcome loved ones into your new home.  If you aren't living there when it's new and when you are living there, it's old, you aren't fulfilling that purpose.

TarHeels&Rebels

lsgarver:

TarHeels&Rebels:

lsgarver:

I think you're trying to fit a strange situation into a traditional mold.

There's no point in having a housewarming while you're not living there because it you're not really fulfilling the purpose.  There's also no point in having a housewarming after it has already been lived in and visited for over a year.

Is there really a NEED to have a housewarming?  I think you skip it and just have a party whenever you want to.

I thought of all this and typed something similar out, but erased it.  I figured that the FI is living there and maybe he wants/deserves/whatever a housewarming and that it's for him, not them. <shrug>  I agree that if they're celebrating their house, now that's strange since they aren't living there and it'd be like throwing the house a party.

I thought about that, too, but I thought it would be weird to have the FI throw a housewarming party for the house he's in without her.  Then it's like his party for the house they bought.  But if they have one for both of them, it's a housewarming party for a house she's not in.  It's just a strange situation.

 IMO, no one "deserves" a housewarming party.  It's one of those things people do for a purpose--to welcome loved ones into your new home.  If you aren't living there when it's new and when you are living there, it's old, you aren't fulfilling that purpose.

So we're both having deep circular thoughts about this post   If only I put this much effort into my homework...

lsgarver

TarHeels&Rebels:

lsgarver:

TarHeels&Rebels:

lsgarver:

I think you're trying to fit a strange situation into a traditional mold.

There's no point in having a housewarming while you're not living there because it you're not really fulfilling the purpose.  There's also no point in having a housewarming after it has already been lived in and visited for over a year.

Is there really a NEED to have a housewarming?  I think you skip it and just have a party whenever you want to.

I thought of all this and typed something similar out, but erased it.  I figured that the FI is living there and maybe he wants/deserves/whatever a housewarming and that it's for him, not them. <shrug>  I agree that if they're celebrating their house, now that's strange since they aren't living there and it'd be like throwing the house a party.

I thought about that, too, but I thought it would be weird to have the FI throw a housewarming party for the house he's in without her.  Then it's like his party for the house they bought.  But if they have one for both of them, it's a housewarming party for a house she's not in.  It's just a strange situation.

 IMO, no one "deserves" a housewarming party.  It's one of those things people do for a purpose--to welcome loved ones into your new home.  If you aren't living there when it's new and when you are living there, it's old, you aren't fulfilling that purpose.

So we're both having deep circular thoughts about this post   If only I put this much effort into my homework...

Haha, I've often thought that if I spent as much time thinking about work as I spend thinking about Nest posts and the next party I'm hosting, I'd be a lot more productive! 

matt&brit

Thanks everyone, yeah it really sucks that I have to wait almost 15 months to move into my house, it was not my choice to buy the house this soon... Stupid in laws....

6fsn

I'm laughing at Tar and garver.  I've never hosted or even been to a housewarming party so I generally don't even open these posts.

To the OP- I'd probably just skip the traditional housewarming and have a party after you are married.

Jim&Jaime

matt&brit:

Thanks everyone, yeah it really sucks that I have to wait almost 15 months to move into my house, it was not my choice to buy the house this soon... Stupid in laws....

Well, if it's your house, who gets to say when you get to start living there? If it's for religious reasons, couldn't you stay in separate rooms? 

wweaver0

Jim&Jaime:

matt&brit:

Thanks everyone, yeah it really sucks that I have to wait almost 15 months to move into my house, it was not my choice to buy the house this soon... Stupid in laws....

Well, if it's your house, who gets to say when you get to start living there? If it's for religious reasons, couldn't you stay in separate rooms? 

I read it more like maybe the inlaws are helping pay for the house, so it needs to be purchased more on their schedule...

Either way, I agree with pps.  Forget the traditional housewarming, and just have a fun party after you move in.  With your wedding, you won't need housewarming gifts, anyway.

StevieJo

We had the same situation.  Bought out our house April 08 and it was just me living there until we got married June 09.  We had the party right away in May 08.

laurabb

Our situation is that we bought a house in Oct 2010 & have been renovating ever since. We are waiting until this October (one year later) to have what we are calling  an "Open House". I think the term housewarming is synonymous with expecting guests to bring gifts.   I think your situation calls for an Open House either now or after you get married but not a traditional housewarming. 

randimarie86

Will you be having bridal/honey-do showers? If so, I would say have an 'open house party', just to have everyone over and show off the house, but say that gifts are not required. Because people will be buying a gift now, only to turn around and be invited to another party to bring another gift. DH and I bought our house about 14 months before our wedding. We hosted the first LSU football game at our house so people could check it out. Some brought gifts. We didn't make it anything formal. Then, we had our wedding festivities before the wedding.