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I Peeked.
Well, I looked. And now I am curious how she gets work done, because of the amount of personal emails she is sending. ha.
There wasn't anything too bad, just about in the range that I had expected. A lot of it is very catty, and completely off base. The two of them manage to turn everything I say into something completely different. I think I am just going into zip my lips mode because then they won't have any ammunition. Some highlights (anything in quotes may not be exactly right but you get the general idea"
- "WTF? I think she just likes to be dominant. Jeremy is either a lucky man or a poor poor bastard" I have no idea what this one was even about or what I said, but seriously, I think me and my husband are just fine thank you.
- One day I asked her how she tracked her hours on something because we have to track hours to each project or account. She has two she works on and I work in about 12. She wrote that when I asked her it was because I was rubbing that in her face that I have so much more work than her and I was trying to start a pity party. Um that, or it was a project I had never worked on and I wanted to know how to track it.
- A lot of general stuff about things that me and the girl on my team must have just said because there wasnt a lot of details. A lot of WTF's and OMG's.
- When I started they wrote a lot of emails about how I think I am an expert on everything because I had something to contribute to every conversation. I'm sorry, when you are new with people that have worked together you try and find things you have in common. I am not the new girl who is going to sit in the corner by herself, especially when they are talking across me.
- One day they didn't like my shoes (?)
The rest was just boring stuff, some of it was mean and petty, and not just about me but about a few other people in the office. I'm not even that upset about it, and a few of them even proved she was threatened by me. She has worked here 5 years, is 10 years older than me, single and eagerly looking for a husband (not a boyfriend, she wants to go right to stage 5 clinger and marraige) and she has not advanced much other than yearly raises. I have been here a little over a year and gotten two promotions and a huge raise.
Final Outcome: The girl is a miserable biitch and I know that I really don't care what she thinks. I am at this job for me, to make a living and grow as a person and will spend my time (for the most part except when I am nesting) working to advance myself. She can sit there and be petty and stagnant and we will see where that gets her. Ain't no body gunna hold me down.
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Re: I Peeked.
Hahah! I can't believe you actually looked. You got balls, lady! : )
But, I'm not surprised at your verdict. That is exactly what it sounded like when you were talking about it earlier. I am SO glad that it is just me, myself, and I at my office, and I don't have to deal with "other women." Although, I think the not talking is making me go a TAD crazy...ahaha...I do find myself singing along to my music all too often!
Also they must really have nothing else going on in their life to be "talking" so much about you. I pity them! They're probably just bored and have no drive for their career.
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You go girl!
In fact, this whole situation sounds like a complement-in-disguise to me, I mean, their lives and work must be so boring that they have to fill their day talking about more interesting people (like you!). It's actually quite sad really. . .
I agree that you should minimize your association with them, it sounds like they are quite destructive!
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I agree. Sounds like you're handling it well & seeing her & her cohort for who they really are. Keep up the hard work the best revenge is sucess.
All of this!
I shrieked when I saw your post! The one sounds super desperate and needs to grow up!
So my question for you, are you glad you looked? Any regrets?
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Count me in with PP! Sounds like two sad, bitter, biatches with nothing better (try work!) to do.
We have one in our office who is catty but in a way like a snake...you have to watch your back around her, b/c she tries to stir stuff up in a low key manner - then she'll stand back and watch the fur flying like she has "no idea" what stirred up the hornet's nest!
But you have the right idea - limit any conversation w/them to work related only. You are a much bigger person than they are :-))
Holy cow... jealous much? And she's 10 years older - so she must be at least in her mid-30s, right? In your first post I thought you were referring to a couple 23 year olds (no offense to the younger ladies on this board who are clearly not like that).
I can't wait until you are her boss one day
Like. Though it is amazing how the same catty folks one remembers from high school are probably the same ones biatching in their old age. Unfortunately, they're just wired that way.
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Nah, no regrets. I am glad that I looked. I am not going to act any different towards her but when she is sending me nice messages or being super nice, I will think twice before eagerly responding.
Thanks! That is very sweet!