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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Jealousy poll
Does jealousy = no trust in a relationship? Even just a little bit. I don't mean checking cell phones or email and freaking out everytime he looks at another girl, but just being a little miffed at a small thing regarding another girl. The reason I ask is because I'm watching Bones all the way through on Netflix and two of the characters break up and great relationship for tiny instances of jealousy. He was mad that she "kissed" her ex-husband literally goodbye, and she was mad that he was mad and they instantly felt they didn't trust each other when nothing else in their relationship pointed towards trust issues.
Obviously this is a tv show, not real life, but I always thought a little bit of jealousy was normal, not immediate deal breakers.
I've read spoilers on the show, so I know what's going to happen if anyone has seen the show and knows what relationship I'm talking about.
Re: Jealousy poll
I think there is a correlation between jealousy & trust (or lack thereof). But just because I got jealous because DH flirted a little to hard with the waitress doesn't mean that I don't trust him, KWIM?
I had to learn to trust him, not b/c he gave me a reason to distrust but b/c I was a jealous person. Thankfully, the friend and I are now friends and she didn't share my hatred.
I think a bit of jealousy is normal. Not trusting is not good at all. And I do think there's a difference. I'm not a typically jealous person. But there is 1 girl who I have flat out asked DH not to talk to (for various reasons). If I find out he has been talking to her behind my back, I'll probaly go BSC. There is a history that lead me to that point, I don't believe he'd cheat on me w/ her. It's just the principle. Sometimes I wish he'd be a little more jealous. I can count on 1 hand how many times he's had a slightly jealous reaction in different situations.
My BIL/SIL, on the other hand. They're so jealous, don't trust each other....that they fight all.the.time. I'm talking, they share an email address and (allegedly) don't have their own so that they both know who they're talking to. Check each other's phones, etc... She went out w/ me the night before my wedding, and BIL went out w/ DH. She flipped the EFF out b/c she couldn't reach him (10 min after we arrived at a bar.) She said she just KNEW he was at a strip club, and I "wouldn't understand." (they were at the ale house haha) She would not calm down, she would not have a drink, she would not talk to anyone. She stood there like a bump on a log before finally taking off. She apparently reached him, demanding he come get her. Leaving my friends and family, and me like...."what the heck?!" THEN, she told everyone she left b/c I "didn't need her there" since my family was there.
And that's just one of the many gems I've witnessed. And I only see them 2-3 times a year.