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I had a "melt down" today
I think I just had had "enough". There's not ONE thing that I can say "this is why I freaked out" but a lot.
My dog of 11 years recently wandered off and hasn't returned. He's blind and already was the gray crayon in the box but I love him and he was my baby before my real babies.
DS threw the greatest temper trantrum of all yesterday at the splash pad and in so doing smashed the back of his head on the concrete and started throwing up two hours later. I was in Cedar Rapids by myself with my two kids. I had asked DH to keep DS1 for the day so I could catch up with an old friend in CR that I hadn't seen in 5 years and DH said no. He spent the day in the garden.
I spend the 4th of July at my sister's IL's with both the boys by myself while DH stayed home and worked on his friend's car (which is another post all on its own). DH leisurely strolled to the party 3 hours late.
The crowning point was this morning, DS1 had cheerios, milk and bananas all over himself, the table and the floor, I had eggs frying on the stove and DS2 was crying his head off to be held. All the while DH is comfortably sleeping upstairs while I'm carrying a 4 month old, cleaning off a 2 year old and frying eggs. I put the baby down, he cried. I came up once to ask DH to please help me by holding DS2. He ignored me. Then I yelled for him to please come down. He didn't. Finally I took DS2 up to him and handed to him. Then the melt down began. I started crying and telling him that he gets all his free time and I can't even eat breakfast. I was so furious with him. I totally lost it on him in the Hulk sense of the word. So much so that I think I scared him a bit.
DH is a great guy, but he seriously is totally clueless to what's going on w/ me unless I freak out. I can tell him, ask him and write it down, that I'm overwhelmed and unless I start crying and screaming he doesn't "get it".
He felt really bad. He took DS1 with him tonight to his car meet so I could have 3 hours "alone" (meaning just me and DS2 who is still nursing. While it's nice of him....there's still a ton to do w/ an infant (whom is crying at the moment for me to feed him, so I'm off again). 
Re: I had a "melt down" today
I'm trying to delete this response.
DS1 is fine. He has a hard head. hahha. Thank God! The doctor told me that one out of five children to get a CAT scan will develop Thyroid cancer as an adult. Those odd are terrifying and I REALLY was against him getting a CAT scan unless absolutely necessary.
This just in: DH was going to bring me home dinner from the restaurant he was at...he just called....he forgot. UGH. I need to just breathe deep and not cry because he's so forgetful. He said he's "really sorry" and he is....it just sucks for me because I didn't make dinner, thinking I was getting delicious baked potato soup that I love. Oh well.
First-a big huge ((HUG)). You've been through alot in the last month and you've been stronger than I could even image. You know how much I look up to you for that! I know how easily things 'pile up' and then you break down, I understand. Guys don't get it-really, they don't. Do you need a J&C day? I'm all up for one soon! You are an amazing wife and mom, don't forget that!
PS-when the he!! did Judah get to be 4 months old!!! Holy cow...I feel it was just yesterday when he was born....
I want to run out and get you some baked potato soup this very minute.
You poor dear. Everything you're feeling is justified. I've always admired your positive attitude and adoration of your husband. It's okay to be human, to cry and melt down. It's all going to turn out okay.
Why is it small children bring out the worst in men? They become so inept when they're needed the most. Reading your post brought flashbacks to the deep frustration I felt about how unfair things were when the kids were smaller. You're in the thick of it, but please keep the faith it will get better.