What do y'all think of this

Summerof09

quote?

I've heard it before, and saw it on FB today and I just....don't know if I quite understand it.

"The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother."

I mean, I think having two parents that love each other is obviously key to having a happy healthy home. But, I don't think this is the best  thing a father can do for his children, in the grand scheme of things.

I know several single fathers, who are truly amazing and adore their children. Did they fail because they didn't love their children's mother??

I don't know, maybe I'm analyzing but I've never understood this quote.

Opinions??

shortgirltx

I've never heard this quote before but I agree with you.  However, I wonder if they mean love in a different way, not necessarily staying married.  But love as in, I won't raise a hand to her, I won't trash talk her to my kids, that kind of stuff but I know I am reading way too much into it.  

Summerof09

shortgirltx:

I've never heard this quote before but I agree with you.  However, I wonder if they mean love in a different way, not necessarily staying married.  But love as in, I won't raise a hand to her, I won't trash talk her to my kids, that kind of stuff but I know I am reading way too much into it.  

That's possible, I didn't think about it that way. 

MissesKB

Lurker chiming in here. Look at it like this:

 If the parents were not together and the mom was the custodial mom, it would be a good idea for the father to have enough love for the mom for her position. He may not love her in a husband wife kind of way, but show love as a hey we are co parenting kind of way. The father could show love by talking positively about the mom around the kid, to the mom in front of the kid, include the mom in different decisions, etc. 

juliebug1997

I've never heard this either but I can see it.  Seeing how a man loves his partner whether it is his wife, his girlfriend, his life partner (or even his mom/sister) shows his children how love/relationships work, IMO.  However, while my dad loved my mom and they showed my brother and me how marriage works (good, bad, etc), my dad also gave us other lessons.  That, in his opinion, dads give up things so that their kids can have what they need, etc. 

Tiffany618

I'm not sure, but I think you might be overthinking it.

To me, it means parents who show unconditional love to one another give their children a sense of security and trust that is important to their development.

Not that divorced couples cannot do the same thing in different ways....but I think that is what the quote means.

Magheeta

Maybe insert "respect" for "love"?  I think that's the general direction everyone seems to be going...