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Things that annoy me.
I know I start this thread every couple of months. But I'm doing it again. If it bothers you, it can be on your list of things that annoy you. 
When people use horrible abbreviations on here or TB or email. It bothers me less in text, but I never use them.
When a thread is titled "Anyone else...?"
Re: Things that annoy me.
Is this about anything or just on the internet?
On TB is bothers me when people say prego. It also bothers me when people whine about throwing themselves baby showers (I can't believe there are so many people that do this), having 2nd baby showers (I HATE when they say they HAVE to have another shower because it is the opposite sex), and when they complain about not getting enough stuff off their registry at their shower.
Anything! Just general annoyances.
I always hated prego, too. But I don't mind KU.
Nice. I am guilty of both of these with both of you. LOL
OMG I hate the posts titled "Anyone else?"
And ones called, "Am I the only one?"
I always want to say, "YES, you are the ONLY one. In the ENTIRE world."
Lots of things annoy me. I can't even begin to list them all. I'll start with a few:
People who don't "talk right" (where is that at? me and Lady went to the store!)
People who show off
Kris Jenner
There's a thread on Entertainment that is titled "NE1 else..." and it made me cringe.
Oh, and also Punky, I've never even noticed you do anything on my annoyance list because you aren't annoying, so you can get away with them haha
Ha.
I just went back to my email. I noticed I do the abbreviations but they must not be the annoying ones (CD, GTG, BRB, WAHM)
And Came's email I said "pre preg" which I misread your post to say!
BTW- I LOVED your reply here.
It annoys me how many people see saying a simple hello is a major inconvenience.
I'm dying. So random?!
I hate prego too... makes my skin crawl for some reason. Everyone seems to hate being pregnant on TB so I don't post that much because I feel like I'll be stoned because I kind of love it.
I cannot stand abbreviations like "KUP" and "T&P"-- I feel like those are so impersonal, especially if it's a serious situation.
Non-TB/TN related, I hate people's lack of elevator etiquette. Blocking the door/ entering before people exit/ not holding the door for people/ people not knowing how to navigate a wheelchair in an elevator.
No, I do the nest abbreviations too! I don't like c u l8r, ne1, etc. Things that would take approximately the same amount of energy to type the correct word.
And that post goes on my annoyance list. And the OP, who seems entitled and b!tchy.
Minus the back pain, I loved being pregnant! Even in the end, when you get kind of uncomfortable, people are like, "OMG I'm sooooooo uncomfortable this sucks, zomg!"
Um, yeah. Because you are kind of growing a human inside of you. But the kicks and moving around and little hiccups were so freaking COOL!!!
I agree....I never noticed Punky. Ha ha ha.
Okay so in real life I can't stand when people are out and about that are sick. I can't stand to see someone coughing all over the place at a restaurant or at the mall. I just want to say "why are you out???? You are spreading germs!" It totally grosses me out.
Also I get so annoyed when someone is coughing, and they do NOT cover their mouth. Yesterday there was an extremely hairy man coughing all over the place without covering his mouth at all. He just kept coughing and coughing as he was walking.
I cannot stand when people don't use their turn signals. Especially when you're driving in the breakdown lane and then just all of a sudden brake and get off the exit...umm...there are people driving behind you that have no idea what you're doing!! I wish there was a universal sign you could give someone that meant "Use your turn signal a-hole!"
This kills me too, especially on the T. I'm in a confined space with you, a-hole!
I have so many pet peeves but couldn't think of any to share last night. The two above are totally me though (including the shoulder bump), as well as hating posts that don't have good titles.
My bus ride always brings up annoyances. People always seem to want the seat next to me even if there are a ton of other seats available, probably because I'm relatively small. But for the love of Pete could you please not drown yourself in scented lotions, perfumes, cologne etc. so that I don't have to gag my whole ride?
...And please stop elbowing me as you play with your iPad.
...And no, you can't sit in half of my seat just because you're too big for yours.
...And don't poke me to get my attention (I hate it when people I don't know touch me).
...And get off the damn phone or at least pretend you're trying to have a private conversation and lower your voice. I don't need to hear your 20-minute+ call.
Who else thinks I should get a raise so I can afford to drive into work and park in stupid expensive parking lots?
Along these lines there were a group of 4 old women walking down the street this morning in my neighborhood blocking the entire road. I turned the corner and start creeping slowly up to them, as to not scare them. I started getting pretty close and they still hadn't realized I was behind them and I wondered if they were even going to hear me at all. Finally one did and they moved. But this happens all the time in my neighborhood, with people of all ages. People pay no freaken attention. How do you not hear a car coming down the road?
I have so many pet peeves and annoyances I couldn't possibly list or remember them all.
One huge one I've had lately now that the weather is nice is NO ONE uses the side walks in one the big neighborhoods I drive through to work. There are sidewalks on BOTH sides of the road in most instances, and just one in certain locations. But there's always a sidewalk. Yet almost everyone walks in the road! I can understand doing that in the winter when the roads are treated better. But it is summer. The sidewalks are free. And there's always no one else around; it's not like they are getting out of the way for a stroller or something. Why do we pay taxes to build these sidewalks for people when they don't use them. Oh, and the sidewalks are well kept; they aren't all cracked and uneven.
I do not miss the bus.
The giant pack of people walking on the sidewalk annoys me so much. I work in tourist-town, and it's really bad in the summer. Especially when they have their GIANT MAPS that they're staring at. Also, when I tell where something is, please don't argue with me about it. (I'm looking at you, guy who asked me where Harvard Yard was, and then informed me that you didn't want to see "the college."
Rock, I share each of your bus annoyances. And here's one more: sometimes, getting out of the way for people means you have to step off the bus. IT'S OK! They won't make you pay again, I promise. You can just step right back on. And that way, you won't get a giant commuter bag to the gut.
Primarily interwebs related- I hate when people use ellipses as periods. They aren't the same! They mean two different things! And I say that as someone who loves ellipses. A lot.
Non-internet related:
- When people find out I'm adopted and immediately get bug-eyed and say, "do you know who your real mother is??" It's much rarer now than it was a few years ago, but it just happened yesterday. (I don't run around announcing that I'm adopted, but occasionally it comes up in conversations.) I usually just say, "yep, she still lives in the house I grew up in." And that shuts them up. But come on! Have some tact, people! If you're genuinely interested, I'm happy to talk about it. But don't be insulting about it.
Agreed, especially with the bolded parts. I will admit, I try to sit with the smallest person too, but I am small also so I figure we should team up and enjoy our personal space!
I just thought of another annoyance that seriously bothers me. Invisiblity on gchat. OMG. I know I have ranted about this one before. If you can see me, I want to see you. I have a friend who IMs me while invisible regularly. I never see her on my chat list ever. So I know she always signs on as invisible. This is ridiculous to me. If I was invisible all the time, we would never be able to chat, because she wouldn't know if I was online! Either use the red ball and tell people you are busy if you seriously are, or sign out of chat and have conversations over email, or block whoever it is you are trying to hide from.
How insulting for your "real" mom.
My mom is adopted and she has dealt with this all of her life. I would have thought people were more open and intelligent about it now though.
Were you adopted as an infant? Do you know your bio parents?
My mom was adopted as an infant in the 40s- things were SO hush-hush back then. She does know her bio mother but they have a very rocky relationship. She has a very good relationship with her bio brothers (through her bio father's side) though, which has been good for her!
Punky, yep, I was an infant - just 6 weeks old when my parents brought me home. I don't know my bio parents, and as of right now, I'm not really interested in tracking them down. I mean, I wonder sometimes about siblings, health issues, etc. But for the most part, I don't really have any real desire to find out. Maybe if we decide to have a kid, I guess, because I do have very limited medical information. It takes me about 3 seconds to fill out those family history forms at the doctor's office.
I'm glad your mom has been able to develop a relationship with her siblings. I know these things aren't always as easy as Maury makes them look.
And LadyE, I think it's great that you want to adopt. People are so rude sometimes, honestly. I interned for the MA Adoption Resource Exchange when I was in college, (just happenstance - I was in their Communications dept.), and I had to write some of those Sunday's Child columns for the Globe. I had access to a very limited amount of information on these kids, and the stuff I saw just broke my heart. I can't imagine how social workers deal with it on a daily basis.
My husband and I are leaning towards not having kids, but we've talked about fostering/adopting an older child if we change our minds at some point. There are so many kids out there who just need people to care for them.
We still both feel really compelled to adopt, so we're discussing international adoption because we want to maintain birth order. But DH is completely set on adopting a school age child someday too.
LadyE, you and your DH sound like amazing people. I really need to meet you
And I'm learning so much about you ladies today! These adoption stories and perspectives are really interesting to me, thanks for sharing.