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How old were you when you "moved out"
I was talking with one of my friends this week. She's 24, getting married in 3 weeks, and getting ready to live on her own (well moving in with her fiance) for the first time. She went to school about 2 hours from our hometown so she lived in the dorms for 2 years but then her dad got transfered to the college town so she's been living with them since then.
It sounds crazy to me that she's never really had to support herself - even little stuff living going grocery shopping and cleaning bathrooms. I can't imagine not really having to live on my own before getting married. I lived in the dorms my freshman year, with my aunt and uncle my first summer out of high school for an internship, and have been "cut off" from my parents for the most part since then. Just curious what others thoughts are.
Re: How old were you when you "moved out"
I was one of those losers who lived in the dorms all 4 years. [Hey, I had a great time and experience! Plus, there were many years ahead to look forward to apartment living.]
I went home every summer and lived at home the first year after college too. Then I went psycho on my parents at the 1 year post-graduation mark and told them I was moving back to Iowa... to live with the boyfriend/future DH (I was 22 at this point when I got my first apartment, and moved in together, thus I got off the parental gravy train)... and I never looked back!! (Well, I did end up moving to Illinois later on. Blech.
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My parents were semi-generous, but I wasn't living a spoiled princess life at home. I had to pay my own bills (cell, car, insurance, fun money, food I wanted in the kitchen, etc.). I didn't pay rent, but I had to pick-up after myself and be respectful. There really weren't any rules while at home, but I don't think my mom appreciated that I stayed out until 4 or 5am many nights. Ce la vie.
So I guess I never got to "live on my own," as my only roommate (outside of the dorms) was DH. Doesn't bother me.
Do you think your friend is an idiot and won't be able to figure out how to grocery shop and clean a toilet? I'm sure she gained some of those life skills along the way if she led a semi-normal life. Heck, I'm still improving my toilet cleaning skills (need ideas for removing water stains in a toilet).
I'm sure she'll figure eveything out. She's just been pretty spoiled the last few years. When I'm hanging out there, she'll yell to her younger brother to go get something from her car or something and he just does it. I don't think she's really had to worry about chores, bills, etc.
She's just one of those people that talks like she's living the "perfect" life and brags that she worked hard for her money to buy things like her own car (her and her FI just traded in the one her parents bough her when she turned 16 so a newer one) instead of having her parents pay for it. I've just been waiting for her to actually have to deal with real bills, etc. It'll be interesting to see it play out.