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Back from Ob/Gyn. Bleh. *rant
Just "bleh" in the sense of I HATE not having answers.
Let me first say that I absolutely adore my Ob/Gyn- she's amazing, caring and I has a phenomenal education. I don't really know what I expected from today's visit, but I left feeling a bit defeated.
Basically, I just wanted to consult with her on "Why am I still not pregnant?" and "Where do we go from here?" We've been TTC for just over a year, I've been charting religiously for 10 months, using OPK's, everything that we could possibly do to make this happen and it's only happened once. I'm ovulating every month and Thomas was able to get me pregnant once, so I feel like something, somewhere is being overlooked.
After discussing all of this, she just wants me to STOP temping and just use OPK's. I was instructed to use OPK's daily from CD10 until I get a positive. Once it's positive, I wait 24 hours, have sex, then have sex again at 36 hours. So, for example, say I got a + OPK today, I'd wait and have sex tomorrow morning and tomorrow night.
I get that it makes sense, because we could be overdoing it and T could just be shooting blanks by the time I ovulate, but I guess I expected to walk away with more. She wants us to try this for 3-4 months, she promised that if it didn't work by then, that she would get aggressive.
I'm keeping my appointment with the RE on Sept. 6. I'm 7DPO now, so that means I can try it her way next month before we move on. Ugh. Sorry, I just needed to rant and get that all out... it's not exactly something I can just ramble off to anyone.
I would like to know, however, would you stop temping all together and just use the OPK-sex-twice-during-fertile-window plan?
Thanks for listening/reading. If you've made it this far, I owe you some cupcakes.
BFP on 2.2.11
Re: Back from Ob/Gyn. Bleh. *rant
First
I'm sorry its so difficult Linds 
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Second, what's the reasoning in stopping temping? I'd personally keep temping since you're already in the habit and I don't see what it could hurt and then the temps might be your first indication that you might be pregnant when you are.
Do you think she simply thinks it will help you relax which could be a could thing while TTC? Otherwise I wonder why she would tell you not too. I suppose I would try not doing it for a while but if it drives you nuts to not temp then just go back to doing it.
I am sorry you are dealing with unaswered questions that would bother me too.
EDIT what is wrong with me that is suppose to say "a good thing"
Thanks, Summer.
That's exactly what I thought, too. Had I not been temping when I got pregnant last time, I wouldn't have known until I ended up in serious pain. My elevated temps were what made me test even though I thought I'd had my period already.
BFP on 2.2.11
You and I are EXACTLY on the same schedule. I'm 7 days past IUI. Hopefully, we'll be due on the same day
I honestly would stop temping. It's amazing how much I relaxed when I stopped obsessing over all of my temps.
Maybe try it for a month or two and see how you feel?
I suppose that could be some of it, but I feel like I've temped so long now that it doesn't even get to me anymore, it's just something I do every morning. I think I would probably irrationally stress more from not knowing when/if I did ovulate that month. I'm a nutcase, I know, lol. I'm supposed to get AF a week from today, so if that happens, I might try one cycle with no temping. Guess it couldn't hurt.
BFP on 2.2.11
I would go ahead & keep temping. I never felt it was stressful either. I only stopped temping because in my case it is useless since I don't ovulate and my eggs are old. But go ahead and do the sex when you get your smiley.
Good Luck!
If it is not stressing you out, I would keep temping. For me, I had to because my body was so out of whack that I had crazy cycles and were nowhere near as regular as you are. However, I liked being aware of what was going on with my body. After temping for so long, my RE told me I could stop temping but there was no way I was going to because after feeling like I was somewhat in-tuned with what might be going on, it would be like giving up some control to stop.
I am sorry this is so hard for you and I do think it is wise to keep your RE appt in September.
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That's crazy! I *thought* that I O'd earlier, which was on the day of Tania's ET, but then my temp dropped again. FX and tons of prayers that we're in this together!
I think I'll give it a go for just one month to see how the no-temping works out. I'm just such a control freak over this stuff (which, clearly, I have no control over.)
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You might not feel it but you could be stressing yourself more than you think by temping and trying to time when to do the deed.
On a positive note, at least she's willing to get aggressive after you try her way for 3-4 months.
1st - I'm sooo sorry it is taking soo long =(
2nd - just a verification. When you had your ectopic, didn't you lose a tube? wouldn't that mean you wouldn't be ovulating every month? From what I remember our ovaries take turns, so when it would have been the month for the ovary that no longer has a tube, would it just show that you were ovulating, but really no egg passed through since you are down one tube?
3rd - temping, do whatever you feel will make you the least stressed
Thanks SO much for all the thoughts/advice/support & everything, girls. Sorry I'm being such a spaz about it all today.
I did lose my right tube, however, I was surprised to find that if I do ovulate from my right side, the left tube will actually grab a mature egg from the follicles on my right side (but only if it's, indeed, mature.) Also, and this was new information to me, but it studies conducted over the past 15 years, it has been demonstrated that women with one tube will more often release an egg from the side with the healthy tube. So, it wouldn't always be the right, left, right, left kind of rotation, but more of a left, left, left, right, left, left kind of thing.
Isn't that crazy? I had no idea about this information until she gave me the literature from the studies when I went in for my follow up.
BFP on 2.2.11
Very, very interesting!
WOW thanks for the info! I had no idea that is what happened. The human body is truly amazing in how it adapts!
I'm sorry that you didn't really get the answers you were hoping to get. I'd say that if you aren't stressed by temping, then keep doing it. There's no harm at all if it's just part of the regular routine. With that said, if you obsess over your temps, maybe you should stop. Her sex idea sounds like a good idea. You do have a chance every month, even with the missing tube, because the egg released on that side can still be sucked up by the remaining tube. It's unlikely that that's going to happen the majority of the time, but it's still a possibility.
I think it's a good idea to move on to the RE and skip treatments with the ob/gyn. You've been trying for a few months since your ectopic and since you had an HSG during that, you've had a good "clean" window. However, you can still feel free to stay with the ob/gyn as long as you get proper monitoring. You just might be able to move a little quicker with the RE.
Good luck and I hope that you don't need the RE appointment!!
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11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
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Isn't it crazy?! I was so amazed by this that I ended calling my friend to have her ask her husband (an OB) about this and really break it down to me. I was fascinated!
BFP on 2.2.11
Thanks, girl. I'm definitely planning on waiting to see what the RE has to say about everything. I don't really know what I expected from today's appointment, but I do think that an RE will be more aggressive or proactive with things. I hate the "let's just wait 3-4 more months" game, especially when I know I'm ovulating and nothings happening. I'm so impatient, I could scream.
I will, however, absolutely crack up laughing if I'm stressing about all of this now and end up getting a BFP this weekend. One could hope.
BFP on 2.2.11
I'm going to agree with the other ladies. I think she wanted you to not temp just to put less stress on you and try to get you to relax and stop thinking about it. But if that is going have the opposite effect on you, keep temping. As the other ladies said, it's not hurting you.
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