July 2009 Weddings
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Honest Sex Discussion Here
In light of the post below, lets just put it all out there. Concerns. Questions. What you like. What you hate. What you wish for. Let it out. Anything goes.
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Re: Honest Sex Discussion Here
I'm honestly not all about sex. It's not at the forefront of my mind when we get into bed. I like it when we do have it, but cuddling, snuggling, just having great conversation together is enough for me to feel a renewed connection.
My favorite position is doggy style. ROWR.
I can't get off without a vibrator or some sort of clitoral stimulation. I don't even know what a G-Spot orgasm would begin to feel like. But this is normal.
Hmmm.... what else.
I'm game...
no real concerns, but I do have a question: does anyone else feel like lingerie is a huge waste of money? I have a few pieces for me/ to make me feel pretty but the whole concept of paying $60 for something that basically gets thrown on the floor is strange to me.
what I like: I have found that, for me, having my lady bits bare makes sex much more enjoyable. So far it's just been shaving, but as soon as my monster period goes away I'm going in for my first brazillian. However, I don't think this is the case for everyone and I don't think people should landscape that area in any way that makes them uncomfortable.
what I don't like: those "yours and mine" lubes and any other ones that are supposed to do anything other than provide lubricant. Purely marketing if you ask me. I never noticed any great differences.
what I wish for: porn that isn't super cheesy and actually has a plot beyond "hey look at me in this ridiculous outfit... let's have sex now".
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Ditto.
Also, since most of you know from private chat... I do enjoy anal on occasion. SAY WHAT. Don't use fancy lube
We're also really into quickies...
And Ditto Panda on the bareness. I would still be waxing if I had someone I trusted over here on the coast.
And Panda, I have so much lingerie and I NEVER WEAR IT! Maybe 2-3 times a year.
I agree with the lingere. I have one or two baby doll nighties that I will wear to sleep in, but other than that, lacy bras and panties do nothing for me. They're not comfortable for me. A good, solid push-up bra (because my girls need it) is sexy, but still great underneath a t-shirt, IMO.
H thought he was just hilarious when I held up a dress against me in a store and said 'What do you think?'. He grabbed it, threw it on the floor, and responded with 'It looks great.' That's how I feel about lingere.
I shave all above and around (no more landing strip/triangle/etc.), but I'm terrified to actually go around the vagina with a razor or wax, so I just trim with scissors.
Also, I find tampons incredibly uncomfortable to insert and remove.
Here's a question. I have always had major red bumps after I shave my bikini line. I feel like I'm absolutely stupid because I have no idea if I'm doing it wrong or what, because I've never felt comfortable asking anyone about it. So, internet strangers are the PERFECT answer! What is your process for shaving your bikini area (if you do)? How can I make mine less embarrassing? FYI, I shave it every other day and go with the grain with a regular, unscented bar soap.
Cole is my polar opposite apparently! First HP, now butt sex!
We did do anal several times back in college, and I can only think of twice where it wasn't super uncomfortable for me, so that's a no go from now on. 'Don't knock it 'til you tried it' - I tried it. :P
I think Pure Romance has a product called coochie cream that is supposed to do wonders for the red bumps issue when shaving. I don't usually have an issue with irritation when I shave, but if I do then using a new razor and shaving with (non-fancy, unscented) conditioner usually helps resolve it.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thinks lingerie is pointless. I feel so awkward in it to begin with because I can never find anything that makes my boobs look good. Most of the time they overfill the cups/lace/whathaveyou and I just feel... floppy.
Thie first time I wore lingerie for Steve he laughed and told me to "just get naked already". That was pretty much the end of that.
ETA: As a comparisson, when I wore nothign but one of his button up shirts and some perfume he went nuts and we had the best sex of my life. Score one for simplicity.
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I'm such a prude. I fee like I have nothing to offer here.
Except I love lingere. La Senza was my favorite and I was seriously bummed when they closed their US stores. I've been hoarding my lunch money so I'd have a bunch to spend when we go up to Canada in Sept.
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If I'm going to watch porn, it's going to be amateur, sex in the bedroom with a camera set up on the dresser. Scripted stuff makes me laugh!
But if you really want something exciting, check out Literotica dot com. Reading sex scenes is just as good as watching them!
so I am assuming by red bumps you mean ingrown hairs? because that's what I get and it annoys me to no end. if not, maybe I need a different description of red bumps?
bar soap = bad. Try using conditioner instead. I've noticed my hair grows back smoother and breaks the skin easier since I've started using conditioner for all my shaving.
I also only shave about once a week (though I get super lazy normally and go longer). During that time I also exfoliate every day, and that helps prevent the ingrown hairs. Going a longer stretch between shaving helps keep the irritation down of shaving across the same area every day.
I've used new razors and it doesn't help. I do use conditioner when shaving my legs sometimes, so maybe I'll pick up a small bottle of something generic and try that.
This!
Also, if you really want to get going, they have erotic HP fanfiction out there as well!!!!
BAHAHAHAHAHAHA
hope you all know I am joking and irritating ehos and I don't get off on HP fanfic
THIS! Floppy is the perfect word to explain how unsexy I usually feel in lingerie
I've read a bunch on literotica and I love it! Way better than porn if it's just me at home alone.
However, Steve and I like to watch porn together on naked weekends and most of the stuff out there is so incredibly lame. We actually found one that was based off of the old Adam West batman episodes and another based on Indiana Jones. We were laughing so hard we completely missed half the movie!
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I don't believe this. At. All.
My red bumps went away when I switched from a regular razor to the intitition ones with the soap thing around it (do you know what I'm talking about... if not I'll look up a link). They're more pricey but they work for me.
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More power to you for finding lingerie you like! It always looks so pretty in the store, but when I try it on I feel ridiculous.
And I doubt you are a prude.
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This.
Anything and everything is acceptable. Hell, first thing I said was that sex wasn't my favorite thing to do in bed!
I swear! I'm not attracted to any of the characters! Now the new and improved non-Neville Matt Lewis... *drool*
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Shorty - Neville has always been one of my favorites, but Matt Lewis is a hottie now! He may have even been added to my list. Maybe.
Kate - Not really. I get a slight pain on either the left or right side of my pelvis around the middle of my cycle and my gyno said that it is most likely me feeling the egg being released, but who knows. Sometimes I think she is BSC.
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I've ovulated four times in the last 10 years or so..so no idea..
I use Nair.
I don't sleep well in lingerie. My friend's husband "makes" her wear lingerie. I'm like no way dude. However, my husband would never make me do anything -- so glad he's the one I'm married to.
Jenny McCarthy = Former Playmate and MTV host
Pediatrician = Doctor with extensive experience and education on children.
Bumpies = Don't get me started!
I know who I get my health advice from!
What are you looking at?
:Insert WTF smiley here:
ETA: You use Nair on your bikini area? Do they make a special formula for that? The one time my friends and I thought Nair would be fun to try in HS, it ended up smelling like rotten eggs and obviously didn't do it right, so forgive my ignorance!
If Steve pulled that crap I would hand him the pile of lacy bits and tell him if he's so fond of it then HE can wear it.
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I think it says "Do not use on bikini area"..lol...but I have very sensitive skin and I have no problems. The new formula doesn't stink as bad, but not pleasant by any means. It washes away..and dude it works.
Jenny McCarthy = Former Playmate and MTV host
Pediatrician = Doctor with extensive experience and education on children.
Bumpies = Don't get me started!
I know who I get my health advice from!
What are you looking at?
I'm game too!
My favorite position is doggy style too!
I'll also say I think I have a bigger sex drive than DH. I could have it all day every day. He's usually exhausted after twice in one day.
We may or may not have had sex like 22 times last month alone.
We PPH sex in this house!
I'm hoping that when we start trying, that will trigger my brain into hyper-sex! We'll see!
When I went off BCP..hooooooly hell. And I'll have you know it's been 5 days since we've had sexy time since J has been out of town. I. AM. DYING. RIGHT. NOW.
I'm not ashamed to say that I woke up 30 minutes early Saturday before work just so we could sexy time before I left for work.