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Splitting up the Holidays
Those of you who live far from your families: How do you decide which family to spend the holidays with?
Our families live very far apart, making it impossible for all of us to spend the holidays together. So we always have to choose. I always get a bit anxious around the holidays because I know one side or the other is going to be heartbroken.
Have any good suggestions to make it easier?
~Alex
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Alex Marie
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Re: Splitting up the Holidays
Normally we spend Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas with DH's family. But I have the advantage of being Jewish, so it's not a huge sacrifice on anyone's part. DH wasn't thrilled with spending every Thanksgiving with my family, but that's what compromise is about and since we don't do Christmas, Thanksgiving is a huge deal for us.
This year we're not traveling for Christmas so we invited DH's family to spend it with us. I don't think they're going to, but that's on them, not us.
We switch it up every year. For example, last year we had Thanksgiving with his family and Christmas with mine. This year, we will have Thanksgiving with my family, and Christmas with his.
Last year we ended up having two Christmases (we spent the actual weekend of Christmas with my family, and then the weekend after we spent with his). But, this year I think we are just going to celebrate Christmas with my family at Thanksgiving when we see them so we don't have to do the two Christmas weekends in a row.
We did two Thanksgivings and two Christmases last year too. It was a great idea...but it left us exhausted after the holidays! So we are trying to come up with different solutions for this year.
I think we'll just have to start alternating. Or hosting Christmas at our house, so both families can come if they want.
Thanks for the ideas! I really appreciate it!
~Alex
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It is really easy, as long as you only have two sets (throw in a divorce and you get complicated).
1) Choose which holidays you want to spend with your family. THIS IS YOUR CHOICE, not theirs.
2) Rotate those holidays, starting this year. So, you choose Thanksgiving and Christmas - Odd years, DH's family gets TDay and DW's family gets Xmas./ Even years - DW's family gets TDay and DH's family gets Xmas.
Add and subtract as you see fit. If there are odd number of holidays, then one famkily will get you more OR you make the choice to keep the holidays even.
Not me, but my sister. They usually fly to the area where we live (my parents and his dad live around 1.5 hours apart). They spend Christmas eve with his parents, then drive Christmas day to have dinner with mine. My kids also spend Christmas morning at home, and don't celebrate Christmas eve (aside from maybe going to church), so they don't miss any family time on our side.
They usually do the same with other holidays (Easter, Thanksgiving) if they travel, spending Thanksgiving with one family, then driving to see everyone else on another day.
we're lucky because his family celebrates the holidays usually a week in advance so that all of the traveling family can be there, but be home for the actual day.
otherwise i really wouldnt know what to do!
Our family all lives in the same town but we have 2 Christmas' and 2 Thanksgivings- plus we do our own Christmas on Christmas morning. Luckily my parents like doing it Christmas Eve and his family likes to do it Christmas Day. It can be exhausting. It's worked out the past 2 years & I'm hoping for the same. His family does it with Aunt/Uncles as well. We stopped doing that on my side 2 years ago- to many people to get together. So we pick a day in January to have dinner and just catch up. GL!
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We struggle with this every year since my ILs are divorced. Usually it depends on which of his parents are doing something for which holiday. Then it's like my family gets the leftover holiday. It's stressful and has caused some arguments.
I agree about rotating the holidays. It seems like the best option. I wish I could get MH to agree on something like that but he seems to think it's possible to see everyone on each holiday. But that inevitably turns into us spending the day in the car! Hopefully you can work out a schedule that makes everyone happy.
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