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Discipline ?
I need help with discipline. G has thrown 2 temper tantrums (holy sh!t-how did she get old enough to throw them!) and both times I ignored her and she got over it pretty quick. Usually, unless she's doing something incredibly naughty, I ignore her behavior. Jeff thinks she needs to be told no and be put in time out if she continues. I don't think she truly 'gets' time out yet.
Here are some areas where she is 'naughty'.
If I'm busy with something (feeding the baby, making dinner, etc) she will do things she knows she's not supposed to. For example, she'll put crap in her mouth that's on the floor or eat crayons. She will even look at me and shake her head and say NOOOOOOO. I think she does it for attention. I don't want her to do bad things to get attention (I did this when I was younger.....) so I chose to mostly ignore her behavior bc I know she wants me to go over and pay attention to her. I also ignore her if she is whining and doesn't truly need something. Usually I ask if she needs something and if she does, she'll sign or say drink, eat, etc. If she continues to whine I ignore her. Whining drives DH bonkers so usually he continues to tell her to stop whining or try to figure out what she wants.
What do you do at this age? She isn't doing anything truly bad but I also want to get a plan set so we are consistant. (My parents weren't consistent and if I threw a big fit when I was younger I got my way. That isn't how I want to be)
Re: Discipline ?
My DH is always trying to put the kids in timeout for whining or crying too. I've chosen not to discipline for emotions. If they're upset and need to cry I don't want them to feel like they have to squash their emotions.I'm not saying that's a hard fast rule that I read anywhere. It's just something I chose.
For whining, what we do is tell the kid, "Hon I can't understand whining. I need you to please talk in your nice voice so I can hear you." We try to act like the whining is a foreign language and really play it up like we don't understand until they speak in a normal voice.
I find myself also telling Ana to "use her words/signs" a lot. She gets frustrated and whines instead of truly verbalizing.
Have you heard about the book 1, 2, 3 magic? I really like that book and also the baby whisperer for toddlers. They're loaded with tools to take you through situations like you described.
Ditto to what MrsReem said.
I teach dance on Monday nights :-(
I'll check out the books at the library though. Thank you!