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Birthday/Tribute
I was wondering. For a Saturday night Birthday Party, what's a good time. My fiance might not get off work till 5 but then again, he may not even be here if he goes out of town for work, so I'm having difficulty committing to a time and I need to send out invitations. Also, I would like to throw a tribute Birthday party. For this past year of my life I've rescued a lot of dogs. And I wanted to make a tribute to all my foster dogs and their rescues I worked with. So instead of gifts I am asking for donations which will be donated to one of the rescues that will be picked out of a hat. Is it inappropriate to say on an invitation, "I am requesting donations as opposed to gifts which will be donated to one of the rescues I've worked with." My logic for this is that I for-warn people so they don't feel like when they get here with a gift they feel obligated to also donate money...HELP?
Re: Birthday/Tribute
I'm not sure if its the norm to give BDay presents where you are from but unless it is a milestone bday/huge surprise party bash- people from around here do not bring bday presents to adults bday gatherings (unless this is what that is?). We often attend events where someone says- hey come to such n such bar for drinks for my bday but we certainly wouldnt be expected to bring a gift.
So I would say its definitely inappropriate to "request" donations in lieu of gifts because you shouldnt be assuming anyone is bringing a gift. I would host a benefit of some sort, even if very casual, if you are looking to raise funds for a rescue. I do think its a wonderful thing to raise funds for pet rescues- I just dont find it appropriate to ask for money instead of a gifts for a grown man.
As for a time for either event- it should be planned around dinner, so if you intend to serve dinner 6 or 7 and if you dont anytime after 8.
Is this for you or the bf?
I agree with everything wine enthusiast said. We don't do bday gifts amongst friends and would be pur off if I recieved an invite like this. If you want to do a fundraiser then call it a fundraiser, but leave out the bday part.
Got it.
No, I don't see that going over super well. I predict that you'll get a lot of "no" responses to your invites.
If you're friends are cool with this, then go for it.
I think you should tweak the wording though. I don't think it sounds right to say "I am requesting"
Could the invite be addressed from your fiance? It makes a little more sense if he's throwing you the party then you for yourself. Either way, you can say, "in lieu of gifts, donations can be made to XXX dog charity" Celebrities do this for weddings and showers. Maybe you can find their wording online somewhere.
HTH.
I think I'll just say "You do you." It's not something I would ever do for myself. It is something that I would side eye one of my friends doing. If you think it's cool then go for it.
Maybe it's the word tribute that's also throwing me. Usually you don't throw yourself a tribute, someone else does.
It could also be an age difference not a location difference. I did buy bday presents for friends when I was in my 20's. Not so much now.