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Family SUCKS sometimes...(LONG)
So as most of you are aware Rick's job situation SUCKS and he is now making about $800 - $1200 less a month with his demotion so money is TIGHT and things aren't getting any better since we can't find him a job.
Anyway, my family has always been the type to make you feel like SH!T if you don't go to family events. My cousin and her family are coming home from TX next week and are having a 1st birthday party for their daughter at my aunt and uncles house in Harrison. We were invited and I told everyone I wasn't sure - I didn't elaborate on anything as its really none of their business what is going on.
FF to this past weekend and my Aunt (who i've alwys been close to) calls to ask if we are going and I tell her about Rick's job and the money situation we are in and how driving 3 hours at almost $4 a gallon isn't the best use of our money. She offered to pay for gas which isn't what I was looking for but whatever. I told her I would talk to Rick about it since he is only off one day that weekend (his first day off in 16 days) and see what he thinks.
He wasn't excited about the prospect of driving 3 hours for a boring (my family events are SO boring) family event so I thought I came up with a compromise that I would meet my aunt and cousins from IL in Bath/Brunswick on Sunday (I can manage an hour trip) and we could shop do lunch etc.
FF to today and i get the following email from my aunt in IL
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Hi Alicia,
I am sure
everyone else will miss seeing you on Saturday. I somehow don't think
this is just about the day off, family events like this don't come around that
often. I get that Saturday is Rick's only day off but I have to say I am
disappointed that the three of you are not making the trip to Uncle Barry's, it
speaks volumes for the connection to your family.
However, that
doesn't change the fact that you are very special to me and regardless of if
you are there on Saturday or not, Sunday would likely be spent with you and
Josh anyway 
!
Please don't be
upset with me for being honest. I know our family is not always easy to
be around but getting everyone together once in a blue moon is nice for
everyone.
I love you.
We will figure out timing and Sunday to spend together and maybe even up
your way as I don't imagine hanging at your Mom's or Gram's is all that comfortable
for Josh.
Love you
Aunt Christy
I'm annoyed and can't stand my family sometimes...Honestly do I need to post for everyone to see that we are having MONEY issues and won't be making the 3 hour trip to see you and I'm sorry but my house and bills come first...
Sorry that got REALLY long and I just need to get it out of my system before I break down and cry.
Re: Family SUCKS sometimes...(LONG)
This!Yes, getting the family together is a wonderful thing but sometimes you need your family (immediate) to spend a day together. DH has finally learned this and most of the times will tell his mom "look, we'd love to do xyz, but I haven't hung out with meg and caroline in a while and I need to just be with them"
If this were my aunt, she'd be going on the list!