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Baby Russell update
Well...We didn't get the world's best news yesterday at the doctor's. Russell is still in a breech position. Dr. has already scheduled the c-section, but does not want to try anything first to attempt to turn him (which really makes me mad). I would like to try things first before she cuts...
Also, I really feel like she is not listening to me (just wants the extra money). I had a bad back injury about 10 years ago that caused my lower spine to twist. I tried different pain shots to help with it, going to a chiropractor etc., but it made it worse (If i am standing more than 20 minutes, I start to have major lower back pains). Because of this, I have a very healthy fear of anyone or anything touching my lower back. I have asked that if Russell doesn't turn by the 22nd, that she puts me completely under. She won't listen. Even as I sat there having panic attack after panic attack.
She also wouldn't address other health concerns of mine...I have been having major swelling (to the point that I can't drive home at night since my feet can't bend). I get the response "oh thats normal and its only going to get worse". She won't address the vomiting issues I have been having or anything else. Needless to say, I feel like my voice isn't being heard.
Sorry that this is so long...please keep baby Russell in your thoughts and prayers...asking that he will turn before the 22nd. p.s. As of yesterday, I am 1cm and 50% effaced and will be going back next Thursday to get checked again.
Also, I really feel like she is not listening to me (just wants the extra money). I had a bad back injury about 10 years ago that caused my lower spine to twist. I tried different pain shots to help with it, going to a chiropractor etc., but it made it worse (If i am standing more than 20 minutes, I start to have major lower back pains). Because of this, I have a very healthy fear of anyone or anything touching my lower back. I have asked that if Russell doesn't turn by the 22nd, that she puts me completely under. She won't listen. Even as I sat there having panic attack after panic attack.
She also wouldn't address other health concerns of mine...I have been having major swelling (to the point that I can't drive home at night since my feet can't bend). I get the response "oh thats normal and its only going to get worse". She won't address the vomiting issues I have been having or anything else. Needless to say, I feel like my voice isn't being heard.
Sorry that this is so long...please keep baby Russell in your thoughts and prayers...asking that he will turn before the 22nd. p.s. As of yesterday, I am 1cm and 50% effaced and will be going back next Thursday to get checked again.
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Re: Baby Russell update
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear all that. I really think the last thing you need right now is to be stressed out over the deliver and I'm really sorry your doctor is not listening to you. Is there anyone else in that practice you can see or are you stuck? I know it's not ideal, but could you change doctor's at this point or find a midwife?
I'll keep you both in my thoughts and think good baby turning vibes for little Russell.
Oh my gosh!!! I'm so disappointed that you are finding out this late that she is not fulfilling your needs! As I am assuming it is too late to switch to someone else?? I was born breach, and it nearly killed my mom because her doctor wouldn't listen to her about it, so if you have serious concerns, don't be afraid to contact the hospital about a second opinion. This is your and your son's lives, so the absolute best care is not out of the question!!!
Take care of yourself and little Russell!
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Wow! It amazes me that doctors are not more compassionate towards their patients. Hopefully the doctor you see next week will have some better solutions for you. In the meantime, I'll say some prayers that Russell "flips" and makes everything easier for you.
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My first thought was also "can you switch drs" but I see that you can't. Hopefully the fill-in will be more responsive.
I feel like I remember hearing somewhere that there is a reason they can't knock you out completely when you have c-section, but I'm not sure. Even if that's true, a good doctor would explain to you the reasons why he or she couldn't grant your wishes, not just brush you off. I'm really sorry you aren't being heard.
I realllly hope Russell flips so that you can have the delivery you want, but if you do have to have a c-section hopefully you can at least gain some acceptance that even though it's not perfect, your baby will be healthy and that's what matters at the end of the day. My sister had a c-section with all 3 of her babies and she is a huge sissy with needles, surgeries, etc.etc. It wasn't too bad for her because they put up a screen thingie so you can't see what's happening, and you can't feel it either. Some people argue that it's even less stressful than a natural birth because everyone knows what to expect and there aren't really any surprises.
Hopefully Rebekah sees this and can chime in, bc if I remember correctly Gratia's birth didn't go as planned either...
I am so sorry to hear that the homestretch has been tough for you. I think it is very importatnt that you are comfortable with your doctor and that she listens to your concerns and genuinely understands them.
With that said, I will definitely keep Russell in my thoughts and prayers, and hopefully he will get to turning! Good luck mama!
This exactly! I'm glad you'll be seeing the other doctor in the practice next week. Don't be afraid to say, "you need to listen to my concerns & address them." in a firm but not harsh voice. You need to be heard. Intuition is a powerful thing & I think you should always follow it.
I'll be thinking flippy thought s & saying prayers for you & Russell. Good luck & keep us updated.
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its your baby and your body...and your healthcare. If you dont want something, then just be voiced and demand that they dont do something.
maybe you could ask youoctir rgenral doctor to talk to your ob...to explain the seriousness of your back injury...and why its important that they dont do a spinal as a form of anesthetic.
On another note, it was in my birth plan in bold large letters that I did not want an episiotomy...but my doctor did it...with out telling me. I honestly didnt even know until my husband told me. I thought the doctor was just sewing up possible tearing.
surprisingly , Im not to upset by it.
good luck to you and your baby. I will be praying for you!
I'm so sorry that you are having a rough time in the homestretch.
I seem to remember friend having a couple of those issues and can tell you what their doctors told them. However let me preface that by saying your doctor should be listening to you and explaining to you their thoughts but also giving real value to what you said.
One friend had the vomiting issue and that was really just the reflux coming back and the fact that the child had crowded out most of her stomach. - That being said there are medications they can give you for anti nausea!
That same person also had a baby who was flipped the wrong way. Her doctor felt the risk of turning the baby was just too high. She didn't want to risk placenta issues or cord issues or bruising organs.
I've also just heard the reason they don't like to knock the mom out is because its risky in general to go under but also because some of that filters to the baby and causes issues with the baby and takes a while for them to wake up and perk up and can cause issues.
That being said you should present the doctor maybe with your prior back health information (see if your doctor can transfer the paperwork) so that the OB is well aware of the problem and has documented proof.
I really hope the new doctor listens to your concerns while your usual doctor is on vacation.
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*Hugs* It's so annoying when doctors treat you like a child. She is likely doing what is best for you medically, but without an appropriate bedside manner she is giving you unnecessary panic attacks, which is totally unprofessional. I think it's wonderful that this woman will be out of town next week so that you have a chance to talk to a different doctor. Honestly, I would call the director of this practice and bring this issue to their attention. They should not be treating their patients like this, and this kind of behavior must be fixed.
Good luck with everything, and please keep us informed!
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Sorry so late getting to see this - anything I could think to say has been said, but please know that you and baby Russell are in my prayers. I also don't understand why they won't try to turn him first, but what do I know, right? Definitely let this Dr. know that you don't feel as though she is listening and responding to you in a manner that you find satisfactory. She may be the Dr., but as has been said - it's your baby and your body and you have a right to be heard and given decent explanations for her chosen course of action.
OMG! I would be trying to contact someone about this horrible doctor. That is just terrible.. at least you will be seeing a different doctor next week. Hopefully they won't be as rude and will actually listen. (((hugs))) Sending T&Ps to you and your LO!
I'm praying for you and Russell, and also that that bittch doctor gets her head out of her ass!!!! You can call her up and tell her, "you know what doc? my friend Cindy said to tell you that you're a bittch!"
I'm sorry you have to go through all this - it's NOT what you need. I hope everything goes smooth for you come the 22nd!!! xoxo
I am sorry you don't feel like your doctor is listening to you. The bad swelling is pretty normal, but vomiting should be addressed! Prayers that he turns soon!