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Csection mamas - a ? About your next bebe.
If you had a csection for your first: 1. Was it planned? 2. Will you have another scheduled csection or try for a cbac?
Re: Csection mamas - a ? About your next bebe.
Totally butting in, I just wanted to say that I give major props to anyone attempting a vbac. It is hard enough to find a doc that will do it, not to mention you are giving up the convenience of scheduling it, especially since you have to have a plan for LO #1.
If it were me, I would hope I would try for one. But what I listed above, and the fact that the success rate is not great, would really be a strong pull to another c
DS 3.12.08
DD 7.11.09
DD 8.01.13
A friend of a friend had a c-section with #1 and when she got pregnant w/ #2 she decided she was going to do everything she possibly could to not have a second c-section. She just gave birth (naturally and at home) last week. She has a blog that documents her experience and the experience of other vbac moms. I found it interesting; others on here might as well. Just as a warning-to say she is a "religious person" would be an understatement. There is a lot of Jesus talk also in her blog.
http://usthreebirds.blogspot.com/
A friend had a successful vbac-and the baby was 10lbs, 13 oz. She is a freaking rockstar in my mind.
I don't know if we're going to have a second bebe, but (and I am shocked that I think this) I might consider a scheduled C. Keeping in mind I was hell bent on having a drug free vaginal birth with Max, this is sort of radical for me. But umm, recovery from my C-section was not bad at all.
I should state i had a terrible csection recovery & even if i needed a c i would want to go into labor naturally.
why? not trying to give you a hard time-I'm legitimately curious.
At the very beginning of this pregnancy I was unhappy about having to have a repeat c. (First one wasn't planned, borderline emergency) So I researched a few options and the only hospital I was a candidate at (due to my pre-e and other history) was Montgomery, which has a 40% success rate or a home birth.
So I thought, alright I'll be okay with a repeat c. Then I hit 30 weeks and had to schedule my C. I freaked out. I was in tears because I'd have to go through a c-section again. (my recovery wasn't bad from the first, just felt robbed of the v experience) So again went back to researching. Again found pretty much the same options.
As much as I'd feel "okay" (not great) with having a home birth DH was not okay with it, plus there really isn't a great place to have it in our home. (I would have ended up in a tub in DS' room)
So back to repeat c. As the days have drawn closer I'm sort of glad to have an exact date so that it's "easier" to arrange care for DS. I've also been assured that my recovery/experience will be better, as I don't have to be pumped full of magnesium this time. Which was NASTY stuff that forced me to be in bed 24 hours post delivery time.
milo was 7.6 when he was born two weeks late i would be worried any earlier a very small not fully cooked baby could have emerged.
i mean i wasn't temping, but i did have a dating ultrasound. so yes it could have been wrong and if i didn't have midwives who let you go to 42 i probably would have been induced and may have had to small of little guy. or maybe i just make tiny babies no idea
If you don't have to have mag sulfate, it will certainly be a better recovery. I had to have 24 hours of mag sul too, due to pre-e. It was awful, possibly the worst 24 hours of my life. I'm sure all will be fine!
It f'n sucked!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Afterwards I itched like crazy, got terrible headaches, and had to wear those stupid blow up leg things and watched from my bed as my husband had to change his very first diaper ever with no assistance... then the poor kid pooped out all his meconium (sp?) as my husband struggled with changing him. I was in tears, baby was in tears, and my husband was like, uh like this? And I couldnt move out of that damn bed!
My first steps afterwards were terrrible. Two nurses and my husband had to hold me up as I walked to the bathroom with my lead legs. I had tears streaming down my face thinking, how am I going to help this baby in the middle of the night.
Once the mag wore off my recovery was much better.
I have to keep reminding myself that this time won't be like that because developing pre-e again when the first time was developed at full term is not very common.
This time will be better, this time will be better ............ (I repeat to myself daily lol)
I've heard the same thing, that pre-e is worse the first time usually. So if you made it full term last time, you should be fine. I only got to 34 weeks, so I could still have problems if we have another. I can totally commiserate. I felt like I had the nastiest flu of my life when I was on it. I was super hot and sweaty, they had to bring in a fan to blow directly on my face. I was also itchy. Emma was in the NICU, so I didn't get to see her for the 24 hours. I saw her in the operating room, and then not until after the magnesium was done. I was counting down the minutes.
Well if you ever do decide on another LO I hope it goes better for you!
I "at least" had a BFF go through the same thing (her first baby was 26 weeks, second was 34 weeks) but she was on mag throughout both so I had "warnings" of what it would feel like.
Oh and Emma's 1st year pics were so stinkin cute!
Im glad to hear so many positive csection experiences. I was lucky to have a smooth vaginal delivery with dd but my recovery was god awful -- Im pretty certain my karma was being corrected for such an easy pregnancy and delivery. So now a csection doesnt seem like such a bad idea! Granted, everything up to recovery was a great experience and Id still prefer that route. Im just going to remember next time around to not push so hard. Seriously, hemorrhoids are not only hard to spell and disgusting but honestly the worst 3 weeks of pain I have ever experienced in my entire life.I no longer take the phrase "pain in the a**" lightly.
On another note, that magnesium sounds terrible! I have a friend right now who is 30 weeks and in the hospital, waiting as long as possible to deliver her baby, and shes had to have the mag. twice in a week because of false alarms. She agrees, its torture. She said she went into the hospital praying for the baby to stay put and is now praying for it to come out because she cant take the mag. doses much longer.
Clearly I can't comment from experience here (and honestly both types of birth options freak the crap out of me. What happens if I just let the kid out?).
However, I did chuckle on the hospital tour last week. The nurse tour guide asked all of us expectant parents if we had a "birth plan." She then said the nurses joke that those who come in with a birth plan end up going out with a C-section.
I felt like it was my job as a woman and a parent to know what was happening to my body and to be informed about the process. Sorry, I get super worked up about this issue.
Mine was scheduled because Claire was breech, but I refused to go before my due date because I wanted her to cook as long as possible. My doc said I could go for a vbac the next time, so I would really like to try (similar to ering, I feel like I missed out by not even feeling a contraction). My c/s recovery was a breeze and if for some medical reason it was best to have another c/s, I would.
DD: 6-24-11
EDD: 9-20-14