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Part 1: MIL Vent
Part 2 will follow in just a moment...
I will start by saying that my MIL is not as bad as some. DH and her have always had a rocky relationship, which got slightly better (and closer) after he and I started dating. I remember meeting her and thinking she was very nice. However, after we got engaged it was like the Jekyll/Hyde side of her emerged and she became a totally different person. I'm actually quite lucky in that we hardly ever see her. The last time we got together was at Christmas time, and she only lives about an hour away. Whenever we do see her in person, it's not always terrible and she's pleasant enough, but she does a lot of random crap "behind the scenes" that makes me scratch my head and wonder what the H her problem is. Fortunately DH pretty much realizes she's a nut and doesn't really have much to do with her.
She is the type of person that sends out a ton of forward emails/family updates/ etc. A few years ago she randomly just stopped including me in her contact list for these emails. I honestly didn't care about not receiving the emails, but the principle of it all kinda' irked me since she still includes my SIL in all of the "updates". As far as I'm concerned, I've never done anything to the woman so I have no idea why she felt it necessary to stop including me. DH gets irritated about it too, because he will ask me questions sometimes like "did you see that email my Mom sent about XYZ?" and I'll say "No. Your Mom doesn't send them to me" and I know it pisses him off.
When I had surgery back in April for my ovarian cyst, DH called her and was keeping her in the loop on everything. She wrote me a random comment or two on Facebook, but other than that expressed no additional concern regarding myself or the baby. To be honest it really upset me because like I said, I've never done anything to the woman for her to always be so cold to me. We've had three ultrasounds and I've sent her pictures after every one. She has never responded back or said thank you. DH wrote and told her about our name choice. She never wrote back and said anything about it. She's just flippin' weird.
Lately I find myself getting really irritated about the whole situation whenever I start thinking about how she'll probably show up at the hospital after Lily is born and try to be "Grandma of the year". I hate to say this, but I honestly hope she just doesn't show up. I don't see that happening, but I selfishly hope she doesn't just because the thought of her with her creepy mitts all over my new baby gets me all enraged. I joked around about it with DH and he said he was starting to feel the same way. We're not actually going to say "Don't show up" or anything, but I just needed to vent about it all.
Re: Part 1: MIL Vent
Unfortunately I'm having a scheduled C-Section or else I honestly would.
When Emma was born, DH called her when my water broke at 11pm. She already knew we didn't want visitors until after the baby came, and yet she arrived the next afternoon (I was still in labor) and proceeded to literally sit in the room, staring at me, saying nothing, and completely weirding me out. All I wanted to do was close my eyes and rest after getting no sleep the night before, and yet she just kept staring at me. Finally I think the nurses got the hint and made up some excuse about needing to check me for something and said she's have to leave. She came back to the hospital two times during the four day period that we were there.
Maybe DH could tell her that the CS has been postponed.... lol
She sounds crazy... That sucks that you have to deal with her, but at least she's not around that often.
I honestly don't have any advice, but I hope that she doesn't stress you out too much!!!
Serendipity3, South Beach, Miami, FL 2012
Yeah, she sounds really weird and what kind of grandma wouldn't want details of her newest grandbaby?! Maybe you could tell her that your doctor switched practices and you are now delivering somewhere very far away from her?
I just read both of your posts about this. I would talk with your H and just stop forwarding her and telling her info about your life and the baby etc.... Im sure she means well and maybe she just doesn't know how to show it or something? My dad is that way....he doesn't know how to communicate/show feelings etc and when he does its just odd.
I swear all families have a MIL, SIL or own parent that is just a Nut Job. I have many many stories about all of the above that I could write a book! Its never ending drama and I don't understand why people cause themselves so much dang unnecessary drama!
Good Luck
Beyond anything else that would p*ss me off, she is your MIL and you have surgery and are pregnant and all she can do is facebook you... I think that point I would have called her and said something to her or at least had you H say something.
I would tell her the c-section date changed and give her the wrong date and then call her after you actually have Lily and tell her you had to go in earlier, at least that will give you some peace and quiet at the hospital!!!