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Low Libido question
Me and my DH have been married for two months on the 13th, at first we had amazing sex 2-3 times a day every day, now I'm finding it hard to concentrate on having sex or getting turned on and I keep laughing in the middle of it for no reason. I have no idea what's going on and I'm starting to feel like a weirdo. I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with him, am I the only one that's lost interest in sex randomly for a period of time longer than a week?
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Re: Low Libido question
Don't believe everything you hear or read.
It's normal for sex desire to wax and wane. And remember: every person is different and every couple is different.
Some couples go without sex for a month and they're fine with it.
And some couples have hardly any sex and it's fine for them -- if you're fine iwth the amount of sex you are having, then you have a satisfactory sex life.
I am not sure why you're laughing in the middle of sex. Maybe you're laughing because you're caught up in the moment and having fun; could be the reaction to an endorphin release. It could be anything.
And maybe it's a case of just getting the giggles. That happens to us all.
Don't worry, you aren't the only one!
I suffer from a low libido as well, much to the dismay of DH. I have found a few trick to help out though....
I find the more sex I have, the more I want sex so often I will have to push through my initial lack of intrest until I do start to enjoy it...which I always do
Sometimes a little spice in the bedroom can help too. Try something new, dress up, role play even.... sex isn't supposed to be boring just because you are married.
Do something sexy for yourself. Wear your favorite heels all day or sexy panties and try and think about what his response would be. Guys can usually be ready, and time, any place...we usually need a little thought first....so start thinking about it early in the day!
If you need to, don't be afraid to handle it yourself! If you know what I mean
Sometimes I don't feel like being intimate with DH, because I don't feel sexy, or pretty or something like that. I don't want him to see me that way (although I know he wouldn't even notice) But if I know I can take care of my self I will usually feel sexier later on.
I have the "problem" of a low sex drive... it was great the first year that we were together and into our second year and marriage coming up it's slowed down for me (as it always has in my history of relationships). What I have found works for me is i think about how I want to make HIM feel good and happy and so I find myself initiating it and enjoying it. Then we both feel good after and it's just a spiral effect. I could hold out on sex for a long time and just snuggle every night but that causes tension for both of us so I just have to tell myself that I want to make HIM happy, which in turn will make me happy and everything works out.
I also have had the problem of laughing in the middle of it... and basically I realized that I do it because I'm just NOT in the mood so it's my way of making a distraction I guess. I have found my ways to being more into sex and it's not a problem for me as of late.
Another thing I do is think about it while I am at work or away from him. I just think about him and how much I love him and would want to be with him sexually... kind of working myself up for it later.
Also, he has a very strong sex drive so we have talked about it openly and honestly. I just asked him to meet me in the middle. I will try to initiate and be more into it if he doesnt have to expect it to happen every night of the week.
Hope some of this advice helps!