Poll: Does your DH know?

Mrs_W_Pookie

We may have talked about this before ...

Does your DH know how many people you have been with?  Do you know how many people he's been with?

Mrs_W_Pookie

Hell no, and I don't want to know.  I like to pretend we have only been with each other.

jodippls

Pretty much the same as Pookie. We didn't really discuss it at the beginning of our relationship and it's way too late now.

duncanpowers

No and no. The past is past for a reason. I don't really need or care to know and vice versa. We've both been tested, and that's all I care about. I know what kind of person he is overall, including in that regard, and I'm comfortable with that. If he had a couple of wild periods in his life, or not, that's his business, and it doesn't reflect on our relationship now.

clseale13

I think he thinks he does...but he doesn't. Around 1 1/2 years into dating we broke up for a few months. We didn't discuss what happened during that time. He later confessed (though he certainly didn't need to) that he had slept with someone (although I'm pretty sure there were 2 girls,) but I kept my mouth shut. Just because he wanted to blab doesn't mean that I needed to.

ClaireDunphy

Yes & yes. We've been pretty candid with one another.

luckyinlove11902

Yes to both except for a brief period when we broke up about seven years ago. We both agreed not to discuss. We started dating really young (17 & 19) so we didn't really think too much before sharing that info. If I were to start over now I don't think I'd have that conversation. It hasn't caused us any problems but I agree that the past is the past and it's better left that way.

cakenbake

We're also pretty open. DH was my first and only, and he knew that before we got serious. I knew I wasn't his first, and given that he was 10 years older than me, I wasn't naive enough to think it had only been 1 or 2 others. He isn't the type to tell all at once. He's slowly talked about his past over the last few years, so I figured I had an idea. And given that he's active duty, I knew he'd been tested regularly.

Funny enough we were talking one day and the actual number just came out. I was a bit surprised, but it hasn't changed anything really. Only issue that could possibly come up is children he doesn't know about (he admits to being stupid in that area). I doubt it would be an issue now since it's been quite a few years, but I've prepared myself (as much as one can be) for that possibly happening one day.

Madisen

Yes and yes...no issues on either side.

chinchilla fiesta

Yes. Its not that many people.

LXLX

Yeah we talked about it a long time ago. NBD.

Soon2BMrsSikes

He knows my # but I don't know his and I don't want to know his. DH was a bit (read: a lot) of a player before we started dating.

mon.petit.chou

Sorta. He was a virgin and I felt it was only fair to let him know that I was not. I didn't go into any details about how many though. He probably made an incorrect guess.

PantsOffDanceOff

We both have a good idea, we went to high school together so it was easy to know about high school dating life. We've also discussed hook ups we've had while broken up, it's NBD to both of us.

Kristin&Kelly09

HA HA, no way!  Is it strange that discussion has never come up between us?  He's never asked me and I know a few details of his past before we met and started dating and what I do know makes me not want to know anymore than I already do.

mrssmw

Yes and yes.  It's really no big deal for us, it was before we met each other.